OT: Update on daughter and friend

First of all, thank you to all *****plied to my earlier post.  In regards to my friends daughter, I left out some detail to see what people would say.  Yes, indeed my friend's daughter and my daughter were outside playing BUT my friend's daughter intentionally was trying to hurt my daughter.  My friend's daughter has anger issues.  She has had problems in the past with her sister as well as other friends..just never had issues with my daughter. 

Here is my personal take on things.  We people get into car accidents..it is just an accident but there is still liability if you caused the accident, you must pay to get things fixed.  Yes, my daughter and friend we were playing but this wasn't like they were playing catch and my daughter missed, or they were biking and crashed into each other.  This child intentionally swung the swing to hit my daughter.  I know that her intention was not to knock my child's tooth out but it is a consequence of her chosen action.  We are not talking about a toddler..she is 11 years old.  She knew when she threw the swing  (it wasn't exactly a swing) that it was going to hit my daughter and hurt her.

Today, my friend apologized to my husband and asked how my daughter was doing.  They have offered to help pay for the dental work. (note:  our dental insurance is HMO and it sucks..only dental plan offered by my dh's work).  I am going to accept her offer because it was not like my duaghter was tossing the swing back and forth with this other child.  She intentionally tried to hurt my daughter and it worked.

My daughter is in better spirits but very scared about what her friends are going to say.  She didn't even want to go to the Jonas Brothers Concert tonight but I convinced her she is going to have a great time!!  I am going to take her to the dentist tomorrow.  Hopefully, they can at least put a temporary tooth in there while they are waiting for the permanent one.

I LOVE OH!!  You guys rock!!!

OK I am going to say this, and I am sure I will get shi* for it.

But why did you feel the need to test us????
Did you think we would take the other person side if you told us the whole truth?
Or that we would tell you to go after her, with all your might and get her money? 

What did you want us to say?

What you told us was that the kids where playing, now you tell us the little girl is mean and evil and wanted to hurt your kid??  I have to tell you this, if I knew that a kids was that way, I would keep her away from my kid. Or I would never let them out of my sight.

Just my 2 cent, and I don't have any kids, so I could be wrong.  But I don't like being tested. So I guess I failed this test.

Have a great day!

Thanks for the update Heather. You might give your homeowners insurance a call as this is something that can be covered on it. Your deductable might be cheaper than co-pays. Jenn

Heather,

I am appalled that you chose to feel that you needed to test us.  Personally I feel very deceived by the way you went about this.  I do not know why you had  to paint a totally different picture.  If you knew that this other child had issues what the heck are you children doing with her? 

I am sure that she will do fine at the concert tonight many times its we parents who are more concerned about those things rather than the kids especially at 9 years old. 

For your daughter I am sorry that she had this happen.  But Heather honestly when you come here and post something for god sake tell the correct story.

I know I will probably receive a **it load of crap but I do not like when someone is deceitful.  Shame Shame

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A few things...trying to be neutral third party here.  If you know this girl had "issues" you may need to take more responsibilty for what goes on under your roof.  She will help with the payment, but since she said she would "help", she may feel that her daughter is not totally responsible (sp)...PS I wish OH would get a spell check on this site.  Money could be tight for this women (at least two girls...one with issues).  Do you want this to hurt your friendship?  Will this make the wedding an awkward situation?  Hope you can work it out.  Dear Abbey...formally Brian  

Liabiltiy I am not to sure on but this I do know.... If she is your friend she would offer to pay... she would say she was so sorry about what happen... and be there for you and your daughter.....While dragging  her child behind her, letting her daughter see what her consequences were...  Those teeth are hard to come bye,after the little ones go that it one set of teeth for life...... This is from a mother who had three children wear braces and paid for them.... and no cavitys.....But I think you must think about your part in this.... it was at your house ....and you know she has anger issues.... I not sure i would want my kids to play with her friend or no friend...Cate 48

Good for your friend for stepping up and making the right offer to help pay!

I hope, too, that the dentist can put on a temporary... and I'm pretty sure they can.

I knocked out a front tooth when I was four, and poor dental care for many years made me withdrawn, and too shy to talk or smile... it IS a big deal, especially in the front of the mouth.

here's hoping things work out well for your daughter, first of all; for the angry other child with her anger issues; and for your friendship.

xoxo

Lori

Glad to hear that your daughter went to the concert and I hope that the dentist can come up with a good fill in solution for a while for her!


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