TOTALLY OT: How would you handle this?????

Yesterday a friend and her daughters came over for a bridal shower.  After it was over they stayed to hang out.  Her 11 year old daughter and 2 of my daughters who are 9 and 4 were out in my backyard playing in the sprinklers.  All of a sudden a hear this awful scream.  I look out there and my 9 year old is holding her mouth.  She takes her hand down and notice a gap where her tooth used to be.  I run out there and my friend's daughter is saying, "I didn't  mean to throw the swing."  (what she threw is a sitting disk that is plastic and hangs on a rope.  You wrap your legs around it and swing that way..there is no metal and it is VERY lite.)  I tried to comfort my daughter because she was hysterical.  We tried to look for the tooth.  Luckily there seems to be no nerve damage.   My friend's daughter kept telling my daughter, "how cute she looked."  My friend NEVER said ANYTHING to her daughter.  Maybe she was in shock too.  I TRIED to not be angry but I STILL am.

So, here is my dilemma:

Should my friend have to help pay for the repair work of my daughter's tooth?  Should she at least "offer"?  What would you have done in that situation if your kid knocked another kids tooth out...accident or no accident?

This is mostly a rant but please I appreciate EVERYONE's opinion....EVEN if it doesn't agree with mine..LOL!!!

Thanks for the ear!!

Hugs,

Heather

well good morning- i hear you as a mother and a friend. I would want her to offer to pay for the doctor visit and then you can say yes or no, but give her credit if she offers, and the part about her not saying nothing to her daugther about what has happened, then you know some people raise their kids a lot different then you raise yours. you have to rememeber that.  did the other girl even say she was sorry to your daughter ? not that she did not mean to throw it ? we know she did not meant to throw it in the 1st place but is it a toy ? dont let it brake up your relationship bu****ch the actions of your friend for ex: see if she calls to check up your daughter ( caring) and to see what the doctor said if anything ok. be there for your daughter dont let her fell down about it and get it fixed asap because that is a young woman self image is their body and face ok

mishelle

Well, this is my opinion and what I have to say may not even matter but here goes.  If they were just kids playing in the back yard and she swung the swing and hit your daughter I look at it as an accident.  I do not know if this was intentional of the child or not.  Irregardless your childs tooth is missing and you want an offer from your friend to possibly help pay the dental costs. I am not sure if you have dental insurance or what your deductible is or not.  But had she been playing by herself and sustained an inury what would you do? 

So my take is that it is an accident and I would not go after anyone to pay.  I am hoping that this does not put a wedge between you and your friend. I myself would not ask.

Liz

Kids play, kids get hurt, kids get over it. FAST!

Unless the cost, out of pocket money was a large amount I would not say anything.

As for your friend not saying anything, if that was my mother, she would not say anything in front of anyone, but trust me, when I got home, I was going to catch heck. That might be what is happening there.

Other then missing a tooth, how is your baby today?

LL

If it were my daughter who did this, I would coach my daughter who is the oldest that was a good choice, make her apologize, and of course apologize to you.

Annabelle