Its The Pity Party Committee!!!!

First, I have the freakin cold from hell!  You know that sh*tty "summer cold?" Okay my grief today is that my daughter is graduating from high school tonight.  I didn't mention it to you guys earlier I guess cuz I was hoping she would FLUNK!  I kid you not!!!!    I don't know whats wrong with me.  I'm not having a midlife crisis.  I don't think I'm midlife yet and don't men only go thru that with the Corvette...  I could go for a Corvette about right now.  Anyway, I'm not really excited.  She just got 3 job offers this month, a checking/savings account and a credit card and she is on her way to college in a couple of months (community college first).  Yes, I have schooled her on life/money/credit/friends/men.  I thought they were just words at the time, but now its in PRACTICE.  I'm not ready for this you guys.  Yes, I have a life since WLS.  However, I have been in tears the past couple of days.  She and I have not been the best of friends since the BOYFRIEND has come into the picture (since Jan 08). She was my buddy, my bestest friend, my right hand woman.  A few months ago she and I got into it and she deleted me off her Myspace.  Talk about feelings being hurt. My daughter @ 4 months old...awww

I understand your frustrations, but now it's time to step up as a mom and not the friend.....now is when she will need the strength only a mom has.....she needs the mom to come to, not the friend.... Hope that made sense....

Thank you Darlene!!!  I so appreciate your input!  Its funny that I just began to realize that we're not friends anymore.  At least not at this time.  Hopefully we can be friends somewhere in her late 20's.  I think I thought I knew everything before my 30's. HUGS 2 YOU!

Catt, Omg I so understand how you feel.  I have a 22 year old son.  I have done all that I can with him and at time for him. .....  Ok many times for him.  I am not sure if he will ever land the correct way.  Then there is my daughter she is 17 to be 18 in Sept.  She is my tough one in terms of realtionship.  She is not really loving or anything like that she is Miss Independent.  This was my child who would not let us help her learn to ride a bike or learn how to swim.  We could not be anywhere near her as she was learning.  I know tha she will be a very independent young woman one day.  For that I am proud.  I held her back in Kindergarten (regrets at times but she would not be the independent thing she is today).  It is tough when it does not seem like they do not reciprocate the way we want them to.  I know it hurts.  I am sure I will feel those emotions next May with graduation.  I want to congratulate you on raising a young woman that yo have and she is ready to take on the world.  You are her Mom but you are also her friend in a way.  But right now you need to take the back seat as she explores who she is....... yes even with the boyfriend.  My daughter has not been without a boyfriend in almost 2 years.  (but that is another post all together.)  Love her and be there for her as Darlene said it is time 2 be MOm as she needs to find her.  This is a really hard time for us Moms when it seems like they do not want or need us.  But, my dear they really do. Hang in there this is really when they do need us.  Hugs, Liz

Thanks Liz

I am just now becoming friends with my daughters, one is 40 and the youngest is 38.....there are phases we all go thru......hang in there...

Hi! My kids are 7 and 11, so I'm not there yet...but I know it's coming. I truly can feel your pain. I'm so sorry. I pray time will heal the feeling of loss and fill you with the joy of a budding new relationship . I also pray you and your daughter will get back on track soon! (((((((((((((((Hugs))))))))))), Rachel

I know how you feel!  My kids are 25, 22 and 18 (boy, boy, girl).  I handled the oldest moving out because he was 4 blocks away for the first 9 months.  The middle kid moved to San Francisco 2 months out of High School to go to school.  It was horribly hard to drive the kid and all his furniture to San Francisco and leave him t here.  (whaaaaaa!)  My daughter - moved to Sacramento area in January.  That hurt.  She moved in with her older brother who is "teaching her the ways of the world" but I miss them all daily.  Thank God for Text Messaging!!!!!  I can zing them any time day or night.   Hang in there mom ~ it will get better.  My oldest graduates college tomorrow with two bachelor degrees one in Telecommunications and one in Computer Engineering.  The middle kid graduated in December with a Bachelor in Video Game Programming.  Both are doing excellent!  Daughter is in college and hopefully will get her degree.   Trust in yourself mom that you did good by your kids  They'll come back for help all the time, but I help and teach at the same time.  I put my middle kid on a "financial Diet" in January and he's doing so good!

I'm so impressed with your children's accomplishments.  I will try and embrace her new found independence.  Still hurts though.  Just wandering when the night crying will end. hugs  and kudos 2 ya!!