Do you ever feel OVERWELMED?

I am very happy I had the surgery, I know that it is the best thing I have ever done for myself.  I sometimes get overwhelmed with all the attention I get.  I sometimes wish people would just talk to me about other things than about my WLS.  I know that people are amazed, curious, and excited, but at work it gets very overwhelming when the same people, everyday make comments.  I am not trying to sound rude, I am just not used to all this attention.  How do you or did you handle this change in the way people treat you? Thanks Annabelle

Anabelle....I know what you are saying and some people although their intentions are good, are clueless sometimes. I use to get angry that I got the attention I did because when I was a fat schlub....they could have cared less. Same thing goes with how men respond to m differently now. I don't know if you ever get use to it....I just got away from it. I can cruise in circles now where no one knows I had wls because I left the school where I was teaching when I had the surgery....so that part is better.

I say try and take it in stride unless...this is a biggie..when someone becomes the food police with you....tell them politely....mind your own business!

You did do the right thing for yourself Anabelle...don't even let your feelings get in the way of that....you did this to be healthy and you cannot control what others say and do....only yourself!

You're doing GREAT!!!!!  

Thank you Janine.  Yes, some people who didn't even talk to me, now are just amazed, and are being nice and giving compliments.  I do get angry at times.  How about the people who don't even talk you now that you had WLS, but did in the past.  I know it is because they are going through their own feelings on how to adjust. Take care, Annabelle

Annabelle:  I agree w/you.  Here you are trying hard to adjust to the new you...it takes concentration.  Am I drinking enough, eating is a process and it seems like everyone has something to say.  Most ARE people w/something positive and encouraging...some are just jerks. The other side of that is it is hard to learn to accept compliments.  Just a nice "thank you' does the trick.  It was hard for me to get that one down right.  I felt I had to justify a compliment- because my head doesn't think I 'deserve' them.  I'm still working on it.  It's hard. Lately I've been getting people saying things like...if you lose more weight you're going to blow away in this wind!  I just want to roll my eyes and say 'that will be the day!"  but I instead say "thank you" because they are just telling me good job in a round about way. It's rough.  We are going through so much on this journey.  Just try to learn to enjoy the compliments as a sign you are doing well.  The attention will fade but your new body won't!  Hang in there!  Lisa

Lisa ~ Thank you for understanding.  I was thinking I am crazy.   Annabelle

Girl, I totally feel you on people at work. Most people don't ask how I lost weight- they probably just speculate. If they ask I tell them all about my surgery. But yes, the attention gets old after a while. I blogged a little about it on my profile. It's the worse when ugly dirty old men look at you. lol  Hang in there girl. 3 months is so new. At 4-5 months the depression kicked in and I am seeing a shrink now and they put me on meds which has really helped a lot.  Congrats again on your success! Love, Jaime

LOL........Ugly old men.........I see them looking also...............Thanks for the support. Annabelle