A Husband's Concerns

April Henderson
on 4/21/08 4:28 am - Modesto, CA

Thank you very much for your feedback Brina!!!

cabin111
on 4/21/08 6:06 am

From a guy's point of view. MEN DON'T TALK!! We just don't talk things out as much as women. Studies show guys say 7,000 words a day while women say 22,000. We are direct and to the point...and then drop the subject. We think about what has been said and do some dwelling on it...but we just don't talk it out much. More grunts, "yeah" and "no". Get'er done then move on to the next thing. Just how we're made. Brian

April Henderson
on 4/21/08 6:19 am - Modesto, CA

RNY on 04/29/08

Hi Brian! Happy Monday!!! Thank you for that. I laughed and learned. It is very true what you say. I always appreciate your wisdom. Can't wait to see you again!!!

G. Daddy
on 4/21/08 9:13 am - San Gabriel, CA

RNY on 05/02/05

"he wonders if he will act differently towards me and that he is terrified of hurting my feelings or making me feel like he isn't attracted to me." Sounds like his concerns are for you and making sure that he doesn't hurt you more than anything else - that's a plus. He wants you to do the surgery for you - that's a plus too... maybe he's just venting and thinking out loud. And as Brian said - men don't say too much, so maybe it's a good thing that he communicated his concerns... C h e e r s, gene

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Kim K.
on 4/21/08 10:42 am

RNY on 10/01/07

Hi April, wow, that must've been such a difficult conversation for him to begin, bless his heart. I would tend to agree with what the others have said about you being young and having elasticity left and to keep exercising as that can only help. The fact that you and he were able to have this honest of a conversation speaks volumes for your marriage. xo Kim

"He is no fool who gives what he cannot keep to gain what he cannot lose"

Jim Elliot

Janine J.
on 4/21/08 12:41 pm - The Beautiful Desert, CA

RNY on 07/10/02

April....where do I start...my present husband and I will be married 25 years next month....I was approximately 360 when he married me and when he met me I was 385. I over a couple of hundred pounds lighter....yeah I had a ton of skin...I was fat and stretched out all my adult life....and I had poor skin. I was a fortunate person to one have a man who loved me no matter what...and in fact asked him after having reconstructive surgery...what did you like fat chicks...and he said no, he just liked and later loved me. Jeff would have loved me with pudding skin...wriggles, bags and sags....you just have to keep those lines of communication open and you both will do fine!

Major kudo's to him for being so expressive. I want everything to work out for the both of you!

“When you find peace within yourself, you become the kind of person who can live at peace with others.” –Peace Pilgrim (1908-1981).

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