I need HELP!!!

It has been a rough four months. Now, it is manifesting itself in old behavior ie. grazing  and all of the other poor patterns.  History: Husband living on east coast and me in LB. During holidays, he was diagnosis with cancer. We moved him back, he had surgery and futre looks good for him. Three weeks later my father dies and due to my mother's dementia, she can't make any of the arrangements and do everything else that goes along with a death. So I take on the responsiblilty. Now, I have post tramantic stress.  I know I need to and can get back on with taking care of myself but I feel stuck. Overwhelmed, you guessed it. Husdand has been extremely supportive but I'm having to battle the pre-surgery demons again. Need suggestions and all your great words of advice to get pass this crisis. Thanks in advance.  Ann

Ann, I am sorry to hear all that your are going though but you much pull yourself back together so you wont hurt yourself may be you should try going to some of the support groups in your area  to learn how to deal with life's stress because there are some things that wont never change but we have to learn how to deal with them but not the way we use to and make sure we don't pick up bad habits either (((((((hugs))))))  Barbara

Hi Ann, I am sorry you have been having such a tough time.  My DH had cancer 10 years ago.  He was diagnosed right after we had moved across country to Florida and during the year that followed was when I gained my 100 pounds that never came off and lead me to having WLS.  So I think I understand some of what you've been through.  You need to get some help.  Like the other post says, perhaps a support group might help.  At least try to schedule some you time if you can.  A massage or just a couple of hours per week when you can just decompress.  Don't beat yourself up about the food right now because it's only going to make it worse.  Try to be good to yourself and remind  yourself that good healthy food is the best way to do that.  But don't beat yourself up.  You have enough on your plate (pun intended).   BTW, my hubby is healthy and doing great ten years after metastatic colon cancer and I attribute it to the major life changes we all made in eating and living habits.  So hang in there and take care of each other. I wish you the very best.

Barbara and Beatrice, thanks for your kind words and helpful advice. You have reminded me to take one day at a time and more importantly do something for myself. "I" got lost in all this whirlwind of life changes. 

Hi, Ann-- Take care of yourself, and then you can take care of everyone else.   When the stress gets to be too much, put on your hat, sunglasses, and sneakers and go for a walk. You'll be amazed at how much good it will do you to just focus on putting one foot in front of the other for about 30 - to 40 minutes. Hugs,

Ann...ANYONE would be overwhelmed and stressed after going through what you describe! Wow... I am so sorry to hear all of this... Are you still in LB?? Come to the coffee next Saturday if you are... Jean will post about it... KMart/Lowe's shopping center on Bellflower Bvd at Spring Street... the Starbucks there...10am-noon....  come out for some support and fun!! Lori

I've taken everyones advice and put it into action. Walked to the Koi pond at CSULB and then toured the campus enjoyed the crisp weather and all the great flowers and smells. I'm feeling like I can face the world again.  I'll try to make the coffee get together on Saturday that always makes me feel better.  To all, thank you!