Anyone one else with an insanely healous hubby now?

My hubby has suddenly become insanely jealous.! He thinks that I am going to run off with my trainer at the gym (who is only 23 years old BTW) and is always ribbing me about it. I thought that it was a joke at first but the other day we had a big fight and he yells at me that I spend all my time at the gym now and I talk to my trainer more than him and why don't I just go run off with him since I'm with him all the time.  Well first off I have 3 fifty minute trainings per week with him and only make small talk with they guy. Also I don't have any plans of seeing anyone let alone a guy who is 15 years younger than me. It just blows me away cause he has always been the one that has had women flirt with him even when we've been out together and now he's worried about men looking at me!!! I don't get it.

Hi there, I don't have a husband but sorry you have to put up with this. I am sure this is common amoung us WLS patients- men and woman. You just keep doing what you are doing. I am sure he just feels a little insecure now that you are feeling and looking great.

Keep being you and keep up the great job at the gym my surgery sister. (Aug.3)

Jaime

Thanks for the encouragement.  You are looking reallly good yourself.  I know this will all pass but it's hard to get over that now when someone pays attention to me he flips. He will get it over it though cause I ain't going nowhere, I just have to keep reassuring him of that. Hey us Aug. 3 sistas rock don't we!

Try not to let it get to you. I don't have a husband but I do have an ex boyfriend. I think that he believed as long as I was so fat no one else would want me but him. That wasn't even true then but definately isn't true now. But for me, I don't want to be with someone that wouldn't have wanted me then ( I'm seeing another guy now that I have dated off and on for years and he's not at all jealous). Maybe your husband just needs an ego boost from you. Good luck with that. Lisa

Men can be such insecure creatures sometimes. They definitely need to be reassured once in a while. Just make sure to do it often & not only in the midst of a fight. My DH is always joking about me finding a cabana boy younger than me. He is 18 yrs older and feels very old with all his wt. Thankfully he is having WLS surgery too and we can focus on the journey together, but I'll admit I'm not looking forward to the issues of jealousy this yr. I'm actually planning to do a vow renewal for our anniversary (since my wedding dress will fit then) as a reminder that I did not settle and he is the only one I want. Just let your man know you feel the same. Have you invited him to the gym to join your workouts? Not to encourage the ridiculous jealousy, but to have a common goal together? My husband and I went through s really bad jealousy phase before we got married & it almost broke us up. He has a hard time communicating & had been cheated on by his ex to whom he was married for 18 yrs - with his best friend no less, so there were a lot of past issues that had nothing to do with the moment. He went to counseling so he'd have someone to give him perspective and here we are still blissfully happy 6 yrs later. Take care of yourself and know that you are not alone. Diana ps - The sex before & after forum has some good links to advice on communication & relationships on the intro page

My husband is not the jealous type. I had to say "hay don't you think I look good?"
I joke that a guy would be blately kissing my neck and he wouldn't be jealous. Though in reality dealing with what you are dealing with would be very difficult.

Best of luck, I'm sure it will get better once he knows your there to stay skinny and all.
Heidi