Ever feel like your life is a soap opera?

I finally drug myself up out of the house and went to the funeral home for visitation to see my m-i-l and the rest of my family and friends that came to pay their respects.  We have a great nephew in his late 20's that hasn't begun to grow up yet.  He has lots of problems and feels that he never gets his "fair due", acts like everybody owes him, and everything he does is never his fault.  Before we took Agnes to the nursing home, he would get down on his luck and move in on her.  She loved him and would take him in.  She would feed him, buy him clothes, hound my husband until he would find him a job, and all the while he would sit on his butt waiting for everything to be handed to him.  This kid is so awful that even his own parents wouldn't let him stay with them.  Anyway we finally found out he was stealing her money, her pain medicine, even her beer and when he was high would sometimes intimidate her.  When we caught on, we had to go over there in force and have him pack up and take him off.  It's not that we didn't try numerous times to help the kid get his act together,  He doesn't want any help since he thinks he isn't the one with the problems.  We finally had enough and told him that we were through.  When he was ready to get help, let us know.  (he has a girlfriend and a 1 year old son too.)  Long story short, he made a big scene at the funeral home and stood up and started yelling at the gathering.  He stomped out and his two younger sisters followed him out and they got into an argument in the parking lot of the funeral home, that escalated into a fist fight with his sisters boyfriend.  We called the police but right before they got there, he rode off with his girlfriend and baby.  He was drunk and high.  I can't believe that he would show such disrespect to the one person who loved him unconditionally when she was alive.  Otherwise, Agnes looked really peaceful.  We visited with so many friends and family that we hardly ever see.  It's a shame that we wait for a death to get together.  Well since I missed three days of work this week, I am going in to see if I can do a little catching up today.  I almost hope he is too embarrassed to show up at the National Cemetery for her funeral.  I don't think I could bear it if he raised another scene like that.

Wow. My family had it's share of drama, but this take the prize. Personally, I think this young man needs to have a good dose of reality. Set him free. Cut him off.  Sink or swim buddy.

Tough love is hard, but sometimes it's the only way.

So sorry about MIL. It's a good thing she didn't have to see it.

Glad you're feeling better!

Hey Sybul,
Sad to say, but we seem to have an entire generation of young people who think life should be handed to them.  Now thats not every single young person, as I have some very responsible nephews, and then I have some whom I dont think will ever get it. 
My husband says my family should be on the Jerry Springer show after most family gatherings.  We have the ones who like to compare whos butt is the smallest, who had the worst labor pains, etc., etc., drives me INSANE!!!
Then I have one sister who likes to slur her words and talk like a pure hick!!!  Not that I mind a southern accent, but you can tell she likes to sound that way.  Then I have the sister who has a 4 year old child who she never makes behave, and I cringe when I find them in a store or out in public.

So yes, dear, I feel your pain.  Hang in there, and I agree w/Susan, TOUGH LOVE.  Dont give him a roof, job, or car.  Tell him if hes so smart, make his own way.  I know the thought ofhim sleeping under a bridge or being homeless is hard, but trust me, if he figures out the world is not going to cater to him any longer, then he will have to swim or stay at the bottom of the cesspool for life. 
I, like most of everyone on this board, have worked since I was 16, and even after being put on disabilty, tried to do some small jobs and baby sitting for extra money, b/c I know it doesnt grow on trees. 

Having said all this, My dear Courtney, if you are reading this, allow me to say how proud I am of you for going to school and having goals to be someone some day.  It is good for my heart to see someone so young w/such great ambition!!!  Keep up the good work, we are here for you.

Sybul, please come here and vent anytime, you know we are a family and thats what we are here for.  Hugs to you, from one Jerry family to another!!!

Love ya,
Rhonda D, the one who cant stand bums!!!