Question about post-op

I'm having my lap RNY on Dec 10th, my daughter has a cheer competition in Hot Springs on Dec 13th. Is there any chance I'm going to feel like attending? She is only 7 and I haven't missed one competition in the last 4 years. She keeps asking me if I think I'll be able to come and I keep saying yes, but I figured I would check with some of you who have already gone through this to see if you felt good enough to be out and about 3 days post-op. I won't be driving and will be sitting most of the time. I know I will have to keep hydrated and thought about getting hotel room for the night so I can just go lay down if needed. I'm so happy to part of this site, you guys always give good advice.

Michelle

Uhhh, that would be a big NO.  You probably won't even get out of the hospital until the 12th, and trust me, you don't want to rush things too much.  I wouldn't even dream of doing a full-day outing 3 days post-RNY!!  Take care of yourself and remember, you'll have SO much more energy for next year's competition. :)

It will depend.  My mother had lap RNY and didn't leave the hospital for 5 days.  HOWEVER, that was only because she didn't have a BM or pass any gas yet.  However, she felt well enough to be walking constantly and even put on her street clothes to walk down and browse through the gift shop (and she's in her 50s).

I don't think you'll feel like it.  But if you are like me, you'll drag your behind there anyway just because you wouldn't miss it for the world.  (On the bright side, all you really have to be able to do is sit there and watch - and of course walk between performances, etc.)

I'm with Wendy on this one. It's just going to depend on you! I was discharged on a Friday and drove to Alma on Sunday to shop for recliners. I was exhausted when I got home...probably due to the pain pills, but I survived. We also went to A to Z while we were in Alma and I had to quit shopping before my husband was ready to go. I wanted to shop, believe me I did, but walking so much (the place is massive) gave me some pains.

I just realized that both responses were from wendys...lol.

You should be released that morning, I didnt feel like doing anything the first day home, was still on pain meds. and just going from the hosp. home wore me out! Everyone is different maybe I was a wimp, But i wouldnt make any promises.

Michelle, your daughter is 7 and has a lifetime of competitions, plays, dances and proms ahead of her. If you were to miss one event in this darling's life, this should be the one, and it's doubtful in six months she will even remember you weren't there.

This is a time for MICHELLE. Wendy is right, you might not even be discharged in time to go. IMHO you need to take care of yourself by allowing your body to heal from major surgery. What if you got to the competition and for some reason found yourself feeling really badly and 50 miles away from Baptist and Dr Baker????

As a mom I know how you feel wanting to be with your kiddo for everything they do, but one reason you're doing this is to be healthier for them. Start it off right and take care of yourself first.

Hugs and best wishes

Thank you so much for all of your advice. I'm very sad to say, but I am not going to attend. I know that I have to take care of myself now in order to take care of my family later. She has a great group of cheer parents and coaches that will take good care of her, so I know she will be fine, she has just NEVER been away from me except at school.
This will be a big thing for both of us  but we will both make it through. Its so weird because I have a 13 year old and he does just fine w/ grandparents, but I have never let my daughter spend the night with anyone or go anywhere with anyone, I guess because she is the "baby" I still treat her like one. Anyways, I'm not going to push myself so I'll be cheering for them from either home or the hospital. Thanks again for all your support and advice. 6 more days and counting!!!

Michelle