Hello

After talking with my husband and my friends about this, I've come to several conclusions and I thought I'd share. 1)  Someone is under the impression that I called her a b*tch when that is, in fact, not the case.  I titled a post that I was callin' all you b*tches out (which I was directing at lurkers who are here and never post - most of who I don't even know BECAUSE they never post).  Then at the bottom of the post, I requested help from several people who DO post (maybe not ALL the time, but when they can).  As a matter of fact, the way I got the names for the people I requested help from is by going back through the last few pages of posts and pulling names of people who HAD posted because I didn't want to forget any regulars.  So one, maybe more than one of the people listed who I asked for help at the end of that post assumed that I was referring to THEM as b*tches when that is not the case.  So, let's get this straight.  I didn't call ANYONE on that list at the bottom of the post in question a b*tch.  I was calling for them to help me call out the b*tches (lurkers).  2)  Different people have different lingo.  Some people find the word ma'am offensive because they think people are calling them an old lady.  (Dear Abby even had a column about that once.)  I am also a professional, educated woman.  Partly because of my career and partly because of my own personal life, I am more plain-spoken sometimes more than others.  On occassion, I have referred to my best friends as b*tches and I have DEFINATELY referred to myself as a b*tch.  While some of you may not believe this is appropriate for an educated, grown mother-of-2, others realize that we are all different - including the way that we speak and express ourselves.  The people that understand this do not pass judgement on someone because a particular word is a part of their vocabulary.   3)  It is ignorant and downright unreasonable to pass judgement on someone's character based on one or even several message board posts.  If any person is that quick to judge another person, especially based on something like message board posts - where you cannot see a person's face or hear the inflections in a person's voice (which are all vital parts of communication), that speaks more about the person doing the judging than it does about the person being judged.   4)  I should never have posted that I was leaving the board.  Since I meant absolutely no offense at all by my original post, the response I got was like an unexpected slap to the face or sucker punch from out of nowhere.  (If I had been on the attack, I would have expected retaliation.  But since I was just trying to fire people up to start posting... well you get the idea.)  In any event, I overreacted by saying that I would not post on here again.  What I SHOULD have said is that I will probably not be posting on here AS MUCH over the next little bit.  My heart is just not all the way in it right now.   5)  There are a lot more people that DO "get" me on here than there are that DON'T "get" me on here.  To all of those beautiful people, thank you for your kind words, calls, etc.  They have meant more than you know.  I love you.   P.S.  For those of you that were GLAD I wasn't going to post anymore... I'm happy to disappoint you.  FYI, there's a little button in the lower right hand corner below this post with the word "Block" written on it.  Familiarize yourself with it. Edited to add: If you are a member of a particular group who has "talked amongst yourselves" about how I am offensive, I'll suggest a couple of options. 1) You could have the decency to PM me and tell me instead of talking about me behind my back amongst yourselves.  You all should know by now that I'd surely tell YOU if I had a problem with you.  I'd tell you to your face.  Talking about me behind my back (amongst yourselves) about how I am disrespectful to YOU is kind of ironic.  While you are complaining about me, you are commiting the very act - being disrepectful - that you are supposedly talking about me for.   2) You could utilize the previously mentioned "Block" button.  It requires little effort and will probably make my life better as well. 

B*tches = Lurkers, OMG, Wendy you called me a B*tches. . .you little chit. . .  And yes that is chit, not sh*t. lol  Alice the happy lurker.

you called me little.... heh heh heh heh!

girlfriend.....I am    "miss *****" to you!!!! mmm mmm mmm  three snaps in a z all kidding aside some people do take ma'am as an insult.....I do. We Yankees dont refer to people as ma'am or sir unless they are ancient.

 

have a good day

Yea, I never even would have thought that until I read about it in dear abby one day!  A woman was LIVID because someone referred to her as ma'am and she was only in, like, her 50s or something. 

Hey from one Biatch to another Biatch, SPANK IT BABY!!!!!!!!! Love you dahling! AmyBeth the rest can pull the corn cobs out!

:)

You just absolutely kill me!  I am LMAO at your post!