Goodbye

I'm sorry if this doesn't make much sense.  I've had a migraine this afternoon and I've got a lot of vicoden and a sleeping pill in me (which all together are making me a little loopy). I'm also crying right now so things are a little blurry.  (Yes I cry.  It doesn't happen often because I'm a b*tch, but it does happen.) I have decided not to post on this forum anymore.  It seems that I am too blunt to the point of being offensive and people are leaving the forum because of me (at least 2 already I am told).   I assume Chubgirl is one because I called her out for posting petty messages on my blog.  (I'm not sorry for that, so I don't count her as a person that matters to me whether or not she left.)  I have no idea who the other one was, but it really doesn't matter.   I have always tried to be supportive here.  In  my opinion, support comes in many forms - not all of them flowers and roses and/or exactly what you want to hear.  Support is honest, blunt feedback that comes from a place meant to help you.   Apparently, although I am TRYING to be supportive, I am coming across as offensive.  So perhaps my attempts at support are being lost in translation.  I don't know.  It doesn't really matter. My utmost wish is that this board be a supportive and lively place where everyone participates.  If I am hindering that, even though my intentions are good, I will not participate any longer.  I hope that the board thrives now that I am no longer a part of it.  To those of you I only "see" online, I wish you all the best of luck forever in your journeys.  For those of you that I see IRL at support group, I will continue to attend support group every month and hope to see all of you there.   I have love in my heart for each and every one of you.  For those of you that have taken the time to get to know me, you know I support and love you.  For those of you have have not and have taken offense to things I have said, I'm sorry you won't get to know me better and me you better, but know that I support and love you too.   I'll miss you guys. Wen Edited to add:  A poster who deleted their response to this thread (but I got the response via email) also said that I have frequently been "very rude", "self-righteous", "hurtful" and "hateful" not only on this forum but on others.  If I have ever hurt any of you, I'm sorry you were hurt by me.   This person also suggested that I am using the "vicoden and sleeping pill" thing as some sort of "excuse".  I am not trying to excuse my initial post by writing it off to a "vicoden and sleeping pill" induced mistake.  (The first line of this post refers to THIS post not making sense possibly because by then I had another vicoden in me.  I was not speaking about my previous post.)   I am not SORRY (nor am I making "excuses") for ANY post I have EVER made.  I am simply stating that, if my posts have hurt or offended any of you, I am sorry that you felt that way. 

Since you're a blunt person, I'll be blunt with you. Why sugar coat it right? Why in the world would you leave because someone chose to leave because they didn't like your words. In real life if we don't want to hear what another person says, we simply walk away. This is your space as much as anyone elses and we're not always going to be on everyone's Christmas list but that's ok too. If they don't like what you have to say they can block you and if you don't like what they have to say then block them. If this place is as important to you as you've said and you truly do love and support the friends you have made then why on earth would you leave for someone who isn't your friend? Do you care more about the opinion of someone that dislikes you than you care for the opinions that do like you? Have a good cry. Go to bed. Come back tomorrow. We'll be waiting for you.

Wen,
Go to bed, Sleep off the Vikodin & sleepin pill! Hopefully in the morning your head will feel better! and you can think clearer.
Remember tomorrow to play nice!
Nighty-Night Sista!

Ok, so this is what I don't get.  Now you're going to leave the board because I said you were offensive to ME and possibly others as well.  I thought you wanted us to be blunt with you....I was blunt about how I felt and now you're going to leave because someone dared say something negative to you?  That's just as childish as the other two that have left the board....the other one was JJ2BeSkinny BTW...so you can di**** out but you can't take it?  That doesn't sound like the hardcore Wendy that I've somewhat come to know...you're right, I don't know you and quite frankly probably would not associate with you outside of this board if we didn't have this one thing in common.  That doesn't make you a bad person, just not someone I'm comfortable with.  I'm just one person in this world, do you really care what I think?  I don't want you to leave this board Wendy and neither does anyone else...I simply stated how I felt about the language and the wording that you used and have used in the past.  If you knew ME then you would know that kind of language would offend me, but you don't.  You say that's just the way you are....that's fine, don't change who you are....but expect that some may be offended and speak up about it.     In  my opinion, support comes in many forms - not all of them flowers and roses and/or exactly what you want to hear.  Support is honest, blunt feedback that comes from a place meant to help you.   I agree with you 100% on this statement, so practice what you preach.  Not all criticism is meant to be hateful Wendy...that certainly was not my intention....I may have taken it a little too personally, but I don't apologize for what I said.  I don't believe you intentionally meant to offend anyone, only that it was coming across that way to some of us and I thought you should know.  Don't leave the board, I'm not and I haven't even though I have found some posts to be offensive or just plain stupid and whiny (not yours)...I usually just ignore them and move on....yours seemed to have struck a nerve.  Let's put this to rest, its silly.  Yeah I know I started it by daring to comment....get over it.  I DO APOLOGIZE FOR RESPONDING TO YOU ON THE BOARD AND NOT SENDING YOU A PM....THAT WAS MY MISTAKE AND I AM SORRY FOR THAT...NEVER WANTED TO BE ONE OF "THOSE" PEOPLE.. I'M NOT PERFECT EITHER.

Your not allowed to leave, because I said so! lol, you want me to come and get you and drag your ass up here and lock it up and make you post?  I love your straight forward no BS responses, plus I know where to find you! Love ya AmyBeth

Wendy I hope you haven't left,  Your posts are always good and I always enjoy reading them. 

Hey Evelyn, glad to see you, we've been missing you!

Hey Susan, I have been sick.  Still sick but thought I would pop in and see what's up so no one would worry about me :)

Hey Eve What is going on with the job and disablility thing? Been thinking of you girlie! AB