Response to Wendy fou's post

I made a new post because I refuse to respond to any post that refers to me as a *****I find it highly offensive and I'm positive I'm not the only one here who does so.  I do not appreciate being referred to as such....I am a highly educated christian woman *****spects every single person on these boards and would appreciate being treated in the same manner.  I understand your message, Wendy, but the way you stated it could have been a little more gentle.  I've only met you one time in person and I have great respect for you simply because of your committment to changing your lifestyle and doing your best to help others to change theirs, but your posts sometimes make me question your character.  I realize you probably meant it to be cute or whatever, but its not, its offensive....my 17 yr. old niece talks this way and I don't respond to her either.  This is in no way a personal attack on you Wendy, I just felt like I should speak my mind on this....isn't that what you pride yourself in...speaking your mind and not caring what others think about it?  What I do in my personal time is my business and I don't want to be made to be feel guilty, or ashamed, or like I'm embarassed or being lazy because I don't post everyday.  I go for days at a time without even turning on my computer....that is a personal choice because I have more pressing matters to attend to.  I have young children in the home *****quire 99% of my time and attention.  I just felt like I should stick up for those of us who can't or choose not to post every day....it doesn't mean we're embarassed or lazy, it means we chose not to post that day!  I've made my goal and I'm maintaining it quite well, thank you very much, so I have nothing to be embarassed about.  I know of two people who have left this board because of your offensive remarks....yes, you have every right to make those remarks, everyone has an opinion...but the rest of us have every right to speak our mind on it as well.  This is all that I will say about this, just needed to get that out.  And please, don't ever refer to me again as a *****I would never do that to you.

Thank You Denise.
I appreciate you responding in the manner you did. I told my Hubby I would not respond to such a post because of its offensive nature. No, you are not the only one who feels this way. I am not one to stir up a stink BUT I am also a Christian and do not appreciate this type of language. I do understand also it could have been a little more gently. I love Wen and so much enjoy her post. I feel that we should try not to offend anyone on here also. We are all here to help one another, praise each other in good times and pick each other up in bad times. I do not appreciate being refered to as ***** and would never call anyone that. Please know that I love each and everyone of you on here. You all have ment so much to me in the past year and a half.
Please, Let's play nice.
This is not to hurt any ones feelings and certainly not ment for any of you to choose sides! Please do not take it as such. We are all great people and deserve to have a supportive board where we all feel comfy to come and vent!
Huggs to each of you!
RhondaT

Denise I am sorry that you chose to be offended by my post.  It was not posted in an attempt to offend, but as a request for more participation.   The best way to get people to listen to you is to say something that gets people's attention from the get-go.  The title of that post obviously did.   I thought the actual content of the post spoke much more than the title (which seems to be part of what you have a problem with).  The title of my post was not to disrespect, but to get attention in the hopes that everyone would read the actual post to get the message.  If you knew me better, you'd know that I never set out to deliberately disrespect ANYONE unless they disrespect me (which you haven't).  But never the less, I am sorry you felt offended and assure you that no offense was meant.   I am not trying to "guilt" people into posting either.  I am simply stating facts:  if people stop posting and just lurk (which has been happening more and more lately) this board WILL die.  It is discouraging to people who DO post to feel like they are talking to noone but themselves.  There is only so long those people are going to do that before they stop doing that.  Then the board will die.  I understand people busy with family, kids, jobs, etc.  But if you have time to LURK, you have time to POST (as I said).  (I also never said that those who were lurking and not posting were not successful.) You say in one sentence that your post is not a personal attack, yet it most certainly is.  You posted it in public as opposed to taking up your issue with me in private.  You also say that some of my posts make you "question my character".  Then you state that you know of two people who have left this board because of my "offensive remarks" without even saying who they are which makes it total hearsay.   You may not have called me a b*tch, but you did everything but say the word.  So there is really no difference.  I'm woman enough to admit that you have done what not many people have been able to do, you've hurt me enough to make me cry.  

I agree the post was rude and inappropriate.  Just because one can write anything on the internet, doesn't mean that one should.  Her post showed a lack of character and judgment...now she's going to quit the board.  Whatever...we'll see.  This forum is supposed to serve as a support group, I don't understand how writing an offensive headline and then berating people is supportive.  Between the "b******" comment and the offensive "gym natzi" posts (which is all the more embarrasing because it's misspelled...does she really think a workout is equivalent to genocide??  seriously.) this board is unbearable.  Unfortunately, the 'regulars' on this board, aren't a supportive group.  Most of the posts have to do with a retelling of the errands they did that day, their fake breasts (the twins, ugh!), their dysfunctional families, and tales of overeating.  I'm sticking with the lapband forum, the 'regulars' on the AR forum don't allow room for anything or anyone else other than themselves.

wow now I an the offender........i mispelled NAZI....intentionally......and so what if I refer to my breast implants as twins.....at least I fixed them. Have those of you who may get offended by that term fixed yours if they need it? I am a single mom and  done it on my own! as for my trainer.....he is a body builder, he has competed in several competitions and he barks orders and yells and basically wears me out....but he knows I have a goal and I am off my backside taking care of the issues at hand. I could sit on my butt and do nothing. No I do not compare my trainer and his technique to anything close to Genocide. I am eastern European......I do not take Hitlers sense of racism lightly. My trainer is black, I am white, my family does not approve of him.....oh well they can "F OFF", my health is an issue and I am taking steps to prevent any more problems. Sorry if my terms for my impants or trainer offended anyone. I got offended  when I was asking for help only 3 of the 50 lurkers stepped up to the plate and contacted me,. Now thats offensive. We are here to help those in need but some are far to caught up in their lurking than trying to help one in need.  I am not bashing anyone or their beliefs. I know some of you got offended the the term *****i did too but I dont really care...she did not point her finger at me and call me that directly. People you need to chill out.  or better yet.....stop lurking........