What have I done???

I am 3 days post op.  I feel horrible.  Not much pain, just scared wondering what the hell I did and will I ever feel normal again?  I'm not hungry and the thought of eating mushy foods, is making me ill.  Am I normal, will this pass? I can do nothing but cry.....  I don't know why I did this, I have always been overweight, I don't know what made me chose to do surgery, HELP ME

Ok.....first of all.....take a couple deep breaths and try to relax a little. If you are in pain from the surgery itself then you need to try to stay calm and not tense up because when you are tense, it can make pain worse. Usually, the third day after surgery is the hardest as far as pain and discomfort go. You should be almost pain free by 5-7 days, so just try to hang in there. You had Lap-Band right? When I had my Lap-Band surgery, I did not eat anything for two or three days. All I did was drink gatorade and water and ice chips. I just didn't want food and when I thought about eating, I would feel sick at my stomach. it was explained to me that this is a common thing after you have been put under anesthesia. I guess its kind of like morning sickness when you are pregnant....the sight of food or the thought of eating food is awful. Since you are not eating, make sure you are drinking liquids. Gatorade has calories in it but it sure seemed to help my stomach settle and it seemed to give me more energy and since you are not eating, you really shouldn't be concerned about the calories at this point. At least I wasn't.  Well I hope this has helped you some. Try to relax and take care of yourself! Let us know how you are doing!!   Karen

You know I had the same thoughts right after surgery. I was thinking why did I do this. I have always been over weight and pretty healthy so far. BUt it passes., you get upi and start moving and feeling better. Than with every pound that comes off you start thinking " this is why". I feel so much better. I can do things I couldn't before.
I no time you are not even remebering the pain or even thinking that you had made a mistake by having the surgery.
Just hang in there and things will be better before you know it.

Hi there, I have to agree with the others that posted. Hang in there and as you feel better physically, you will start to change your thinking about what you've chosen to do.  This is a life altering process that I don't feel anyone can REALLY prepare you for.  But, I promise you, in the next week or so you will feel better. Your emotions are running high right now because of the anestheisa (sp) and also your hormones are out of whack too.  If you look back (don't bother, just take my word for it, you'll take all day finding the posts) most other people will say that they had a period of "weepies" when they came home. Please don't be too hard on yourself and give yourself a chance to adjust to all the changes going on with your body and mind. Take care, we're here if you need us

I hope you are feeling better.  It looks like we have the same doctor.  I'm scheduled for Tuesday.  Would you still recommend Dr Luttrell?  :o)

I would still recommend him.  Just remember though he doesn't have hospital privilidges.  He did send me to Southwest, said he had them there, not a real clean facility.  He is excellent, he called the night I had surgery, he calls immed.  if you call the number of medical exchange.  He also gives his cell number.  Good doc, just having a terrible time myself, I need that encouragement, especially from a medical perspective

IT WILL PASS...trust me.  Same thing happened to me, I cried and cried and cried for 3 weeks.  I didn't hate my surgery, but I hated that I did it.  For me it was a bit different, because I had the open rny gastric bypass.  I spent 3 wonderful days in the hospital, I was so happy and cheery and I was doing real well with the ice chips, then did okay with the liquid food when I was allowed to have it. But once I got home, it was a different story.  I didn't feel happy anymore.  Every little thing made me cry, if someone said hello how are you doing to me, I would just start bawling like someone had died.  I think for me, the reason everything changed when I got home, was because I had to realize that I was not in control right now.  I needed to follow a strict diet regiman exactly as it was written by my surgeon.  I did everything on a time schedule like I was in prison.  At such and such time I ate breakfast, 90 minutes later I could sip a little of whatever I was going to drink, at such and such time I needed to walk down my buildings hallway "X" amount of times.  Then sip some more liquid.  Not to mention, that everytime I dropped something on the floor, I needed someone to pick it up for me because I couldn't bend down yet, I had to sleep a certain way cause any other way was either painful or uncomfortable.  Needed help in the morning sometimes to get up if I rolled over in my sleep and got flat.  I just seemed like I had no control of anything.  But at about 3 weeks, which I think was about the same time that my new daily life became more easier and I didn't need to set an eggtimer to eat, drink or walk anymore, the depression pretty much was gone overnight.  I have read in the past on several different OH boards and mailing lists where new pre-ops get bad depression, and for most it only lasts for a week or two, or of your like me, 3 weeks. I hope this helps you some, and you get to feeling more happier soon.

I'm glad he's taking good care of you.  I've read a lot on lapbandtalk.com and I think most people feel the same way you're feeling right now on about the 3rd or 4th day.  I'll have to remind myself of that when I'm crying and wondering if I've lost my mind!  I'm a little concerned about the lack of choices on the hospital. 

I didn't have lapband, so I don't know how much "pain", etc is normal.   But I do know that, IN GENERAL, your feelings are TOTALLY normal.  It is called "the buyer's remorse phase" and I think most - if not all - of us have it.   I read the book "Weight Loss Surgery for Dummies" which is WONDERFUL by the way.  It has a section called "Normal feelings after surgery".  The number 1 listed is "What have I done?"  It goes on to say that regret is VERY common after surgery especially if you are struggling with nausea.   So after reading that and listening to everyone on these forums talk about how normal it was, I actually EXPECTED to feel "buyer's remorse".  However, since I had read about it and heard people on these forums talking about it, I knew that it was a temporary feeling that can and does pass.   I don't remember how long mine lasted, but yours will probably last less time than mine did.  (You had lapband after all, which most people say is less painful, etc than open RNY which is what I had.)   What you are feeling is TOTALLY normal.  You are not alone and we all understand what you are going through.  Just keep posting the way that you are doing and we will all be here with you.  It is very theraputic to get these feelings out (in my opinion).   Deep down, below the FEELINGS you are having, you are still a logical person.  You know that you did this because even though you have "always been overweight" that you wanted to be a healthier person.  You wanted to be able to walk better and breathe better and LIVE better.  You were not living your BEST life and you knew it.  This will help you do that.  And THAT is why you did this (in a nutshell).   I would say that I hope you feel better soon.  But I don't have to HOPE, because I KNOW that you will.