tantalizing tammy...are you OK?

Just checking in to see if you're ok. Sure hope so! My dog ate my modem, so I have to use DH's computer when I can. Getting PICC line out today, and get to try to re-learn to drive today too. Big day here is Alexander! Take care

I am here....went to the bank to see if I can get the money for the ole homestead....who knows. I go to the dr tomorrow for my follow up on the new boobs. my daughter has senior pics on the 19th......the cost is gonna break me......I almost went broke on the class ring. Also her senior page in her year book is 300.00.....so I am officially poor. my son brought his history grade of 14 up to a 98...hmmm guess it is because my daughter and I did his bonus work....so we got the good grades. so....you still hopping around???? If I gain any more weight I am gonna be rolling everywhere. I am miserable. I have no energy.......could be my thyroid. Who knows. Ok well any how.....got plans for the long weekend? It is my birthday....gonna sleep all day I think. Who knows yet...... Ok well I am gonna go for a bit...... talk to you later Thanks for the concern huggs Tammy

Okay, I thought about this and went away from my pc and still thought about it and came back and I know you didn't ask me for my two cents but here goes.  You did his work?  That can't be a good thing for him.  YOu are telling him it is okay to cheat, in essence, to steal.  Plus, what about when he goes to college.  Okay, I said it, blast me, but I teach at a university and I see those students, the ones who had parents doing their work, or those who cheated their way through school and when they get here they are totally at a loss of how to maintain their pace.  They either fail out or drop out.  To ensure his academic success, don't do his work, but make him suffer the consequences of his bad grade, either grounding him or making him go to summer school.   Okay, now you can blast me, I'm sorry, it's just that I teach and hate to see kids cheat.

the school has failed to bring my sons grades to my attention, until reports cards come out and he has a 14. Some of the teachers do not even know who he is.....and he is in their class all day. He has ADHD. I have went to meeting after meeting with these ignorant poor excuses for teachers and they will not help my son. I was told two weeks ago...." grades do not matter until he enters 9th grade" I asked if the only reason he gets his grades is because he attends everyday....the answer "YES"  I dont do his work every day. He does his work 99% of the time. I wa**** with 3 assignments and about 3 days to complete them.  The only computer and internet access I have is at work. One assignment was a written report 4-5 pages long on Pea Ridge....where ever the hell that is, A poster with pictures and articles on the same, as well as a civil war diarama. This is not the only teacher to do this, music teacher gave me 2 days to get him to complete 8 worksheets and a report. They do not bother to contact me when he does not do his work, they wait until a day or so before progress and report cards go home. I have provided the teachers with my email and all phone numbers. They told me they are too busy to deal with my child. I have had meeting after meeting and requested they retain him due to his ADHD and the fact that he is very small and has a slight learning disability. They will not do it. So I have a 9tth grade son who weighs about 58 pounds. So you tell me what he is learning from teachers who have their heads so far up their back sides and the Baptist church here in Marion??????? He is learning nothing from them. I only seem to have this issue with teachers who are young. The older school teachers are very helpful and willing to shoot me an email about assignments and so on. My next step is going to be with the school board because I do my part with making sure he attends, making sure he is respectful, making sure he does his work at home. I can not go to school with him. I can not beat the crap out of him. I have taken away everything as punishment for not bringing home school assignments and also for not doing them. You tell me what to do????? I do not have money, a husband, or the means to home school him. I know he will probably quit school and when he does he will go live way up in Illinois with his dad because I refuse to let him live down here and become a useless meth addict . Or be on the welfare system or jump from job to job. He is going to summer school and I am asking you just how do I pay for it? I make less than 25 grand a year. I manage. I make too much for any assistance not that I would ask for it.  So you judge me and assume I do his work all the time, you did not know he has ADHD, you know nothing about my situation. I am not angry, I am frusterated and crying because my ex husband is a loser and I dont want my son to be like him. People tell me to give him to my ex husband, thats not an option. He will surely quit school. I actually make him go. My ex would not do that. So....what next?????????? 

 

 

If your child isn't in special ed., perhaps this is an option.  If I were you, I'd go to the next school board meeting and demand that my son's education needs are met.  If those teachers are not contacting you, then, it is a shame, but still doing his work is not the answer.  Depending upon his learning disability, there are many options.  The school system owes it to each child to provide them with an adequate education, demand they give him his.  It is up to you to be your child's advocate and not the teachers, be proactive, even if that means calling his teacher every single day.  Just remember, you are not the student, but the student's mother and as his mother, you owe him an education too.  This is the end of the year and little can be done, but next year, make it a point to talk to his teacher daily.  Find out their free period and call them and get the work list and every single day force your son to sit at the table and do his work. 

I have forced him to sit at the table for over 4 hours and got him to write one sentence. His teachers will not do anything. The school has consolidated and their response is......he is not the only student they do not have time to email me lessons or even get them to the office and my daughter pick them up. I have spanked him, taken away his game systems and told him he can not go to his dads. He is in resource.....I have been to teacher meetings. The school here will not step in. They tell me it is up to me. Well I guess I will quit my job live on welfare and walk him to and from each class. I have been there done that bought the t-shirt. Section 504...what a joke. Resource classes, do nothing really. Marion school does not want to be bothered with a child that has ADHD.  As for doing his work....yeah it was wrong.....but isnt it wrong for teachers to pass a child based on attendace???? Thats not helping him. He still had to present his assignment, I made him sit there and I read everything to him. He listened. I also know that a few of the teachers in the military allowed us to read and write out his work....as long as he was read to and helped with it. Which is what section 504 allows. What do you know about ADHD? Have you dealt with in one on one? It is not easy. I deal with a child who will not eat, cant sleep, has leg pains all from his meds. If he is not on them the school calls me in and informs me they cant teach him and he must be on them or there will be other consequences. They actually pay for his dr appts....they made me take him to the dr. My last meeting the resource teacher and a few others informed me that until 9th grade his grades are not that important.....unless they see he can not do the work in  general. That is not his problem. I can not beat him....thats child abuse. He is very very very stubborn. Whats next??? The school is no help. I have been to meetings and even threatened them with the media and how they pass a child...not just mine.....year after year even though there are issues. They want their funding, End of story.