In Bandster Hell....

Well, here I sit...hoping that this first part was going to be a piece of cake..(lol), anyway, my surgery happened so fast, I guess, I didnt do enough research on it all. I knew I wanted to get the lap band, and that it was adjustable, and such, I knew what to expect it all to feel like, but, I didnt know that I would have NO restriction for a while. I initially lost 17 lbs, and I have now gained about 3lbs back. I am still below 300 and I am trying to stay there, or go lower until my first fill in Feb. From what I hear now, that one may not even do much. I am on a web group, and they have given me some attatude about thinking the band was going to do it all for me. I never thought that, but, I also thought that if I could have done it on my own, I would have. I actually unsubbed from one group, because, one girl was making me feel guilty, she was only 3 months out. My doctor gave me completly differnt instructions compaired to them, and I think they think I am lying. Yes, I would have like some resriction sooner, but, there is not much I can do about it, except make some good choices, and hope that I dont make too many bad ones. It is hard to be newly banded and get yelled at. Gee, it was like I went from liquids to being able to eat anything again. The mind is an evil thing when it wants to be. And since my pastor "outted" me at church, everyone is asking me ohhh how much have you lost???etc...It is frustrating to say the least. Sorry, I am moaning, here, but, I just need some support in all this. OH as for a meeting wherever is fine...Saturdays are better, and I will see ya'll there..thanks geri

Geri, Im so sorry that things are not so good for you right now but hang in there. People who have never been where we are have no idea what to say. Im finding my support here and with family, cuz folks outside of that are rude and ignorant. Im sure after your fill, things will be better, and maybe if you talk to the doctor or his nurse, they will have some ideas. Hang in there, just think like this, down 17 is better than up 17. I know its frustrating, but we are here for you. Just take care of you and keep smiling. Hugs, Rhonda

Hello, I am just in the stages of trying to get approval from my insurance company to have this done. I'm so sorry for all of the negative comments made to you. I know this is going to be a very difficult thing and everyone adjust differently. Don't give those negative people anymore of your time! Hope you lose lots.........

Thanks. It was a yahoo group for lap banders. It was just hard, I mean I am only what, 16 days out from surgery, and to be yelled at is just rude, and especially by someone who was just banded in Nov. I was always against surgery, until, I needed it. Yes, it is easier to eat less, because of the diet followed after surgery, I have had hamburger, and chicken soup, but, no real meat, as in steak or a cooked chicken that I would make. I just hope that I didnt strech things out. I still wonder why docs are so different in thier diets...thanks geri

Hey Geri. I just wanted to say hello and send you a hug. I'm sorry that people were mean to you. I don't think there is any reason for that! I think most people are mean or abrasive because they are miserable. I think they take it out on others and it's just not fair. I have RNY so I don't understand what you are going through, but I will say a prayer for you and I do hope it gets better quickly!! Margie

Geri, 17 pounds is great. Since you are getting a fill in Feb., well, that is soon and right around the corner. So, with the fill, you should feel more restrictive and resume weightloss. Don't worry about those rude folks. Some people can only feel good about themselves when they make others feel badly. You have lost 17 pounds, that's great.

Geri, hold your head up high. you are doing something to help yourself and only you know yourself. i went to a seminar with dr. luttrell in little rock yesterday. i got the impression he just put the band on and does the first fill later becuz of swelling and things after surgery. my dad had his stomach stapled in 91 and the doctors told him he wouldn't be hungry. well he's been hungry and angry ever since. that's why i'm very scared to do this. but you hang in. don't talk to negitive people. and everyone i know is against me doing this but my dad. he thinks i'm going to have a stroke or something and not die from it. like he says there are alot worse things than death. you knew it was going to be different but i'm sure this is something that is different for everyone. dr. luttrell said yesterday that attitude was most of this. so try to stay positive and it seem like this is a very supportive group. some times i'm sure you feel like you are talking yourself down from a ledge when you face a battle with food. it is my drug of choice. you may have already called your doctor, but if not, do. you have paid for his services, his advice and his expertise. use it. from what i understand this is a life long relationship. i avoid asking people cuz i'm scared i'm bothering them or it's stupid. but it's not. you are paying good money for their services. try to work this out so it works well for you. i hope you have a wonderful day today. i'm hoping this goes well for you. i have a friend in branson who has had ups and downs with hers (she has other medical problems) but she told me last week she has not regretted it at all. it's all still very new for you. you can do this. trish

geri, i talked to my banded friend, she said she was hungry until her first fill, but after that she's done well. she has had it too full so that she could not eat very well. so they let it out and she's very happy with it. trish