Good Evening
Hope you all have had a pleasant Thanksgiving and are looking forward to a wonderful Christmas.
I do have to add my two cents to the discussion started elsewhere. I quit coming because it became obvious that I was not appreciated. No one would respond to my posts and I think that hurts people's feelings and makes them feel unwanted. No one wants to participate in a discussion group where only a few people are spoken to or recognized.
My second reason for stopping posting was that I did not feel that the goal of the board was to support the others here. It turned into what the kids are calling cyberbullying pretty quickly. I just didn't have time for that kind of negativity in my life.
Now, if you all are really ready to be a support group, like the one that I am in on Facebook, where we actually say nice and encouraging things to one another, then I am very ready to come back. I cannot stand bickering, back biting, and bad mouthing.
I don't know about you, but that kind of conflict causes my eating disorder to act up and it makes me hungary.
I have been a member here 5 years. I know the cast of characters that are part of this discussion. I have been within 10 pounds of my lowest weight for four years, but it is a struggle. And I would like to leave you with the parting words that the past is the past and we cannot change it, the future is still ahead and we cannot control it, the present is the moment of power. If we want a better board that is supportive, then we will focus on what we post now and think about how that will encourage others and support them in the difficulty of keeping their eating disorders under control.
I miss the positive aspects of this group and their strengths.
I saw another board where people would do it kinda like a daily journal and I like it ..
What you do is just post what is happening in your life that day, no response needed but everyone reading can address your situaion and whom ever they wish or not ,,,Up to each person..
So i will try this and see if it catches on ...if not ..OH WELLLLLLL
Shirley
Even if a person is just posting on what they have done during the day, it still needs to be acknowledged. Even in marriages, when a person volunteers to their partner what their day has been like, they don't want it met with silence. It is always nice to hear," Gosh, I am glad it went well," or " I am so sorry that you had a bad day." I am looking forward to hearing what is happening to you.
