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Kim, I have to agree with the others. I have been on OH for over 9 years. I had surgery almost 8 1/2 years ago. I started out on the main board, then they added the state boards and i moved on over here, posting and promoting it on the main board till we had a wonderful group of people posting here. It was a very very BUSY board. More so, that even the larger states such as California and Texas. This board was really rolling, then some really mean spirited people came on board and couldn't stand to see so many people happily succeeding. Caused a huge ruckus and kept the pot stirring. A lot of people got hurt badly by a certain couple of people and that's when the board started dying. On particular person really hurt MANY people, befriended many, earned their confidence and eventually ruined a lot of beautiful friendships that had been made. We all used to be one big happy family here, got together OFTEN and were very happy. So many people were hurt that everyone got very skeptical of getting to close to others again. I think that is what happened. I still have a very select few close friendships that were made here from the beginning. I am very careful of who I trust and who and what I say anything to. Some people are just not WHO they project themselves to be. All I can say, is be very careful when meeting people online. Don't TRUST too lightly. I was hurt deeply, taken advantage of several times by people pretending to be someone they truly were not. I had my computer hacked, profiles destroyed, all my photos deleted and much much more. Some people have even been physically hurt in the process. Don't get me wrong, I still love the Alabama Board and will never completely leave. I still check in a few times a week and would eventually like to get on more. A lot of people stick around till they lose their weight, stop coming here for support or going to support groups, start gaining weight back and then are too ashamed to come back for the support they need. I have seen it happen too many times. For goodness sake, if people start gaining weight back, this is the first place they should come for support. That's what we are here for. I wish you the best and much success.
Elle
Elle
Kim
Hi there
I am 7 years out this month and I come here almost everyday even though I dont post.. Way back there were so many little groups to where if you didnt belong , you could post till you were blue and noone would reply .. SOOOOOOOOOOO, i just read and every now and again, I will post something .
I think lots just get to goal and then LIFE gets in the way and they dont come back... Sadly life too is that way ....seems once a purpose is achieved folks move on..
Having said that though , if your in this group , we hve to constantly monitor ourselves..If we are no****chful, regain will happen so quickly and then we have to try to figure it all out again.
THANK THE LORD i stay with 5-10 libs and can manage to get hold of the MONSTER and get back to basics.:)
I wish the board was was REACH OUT AND HUG FRIENDLY as it once was...I think really it could be just people dont have time once they get the weight gone and start living again.
As for the trouble makers some speak of....I never got mixed in all that ...once I see people starting to talk crap about something they know NOTHING about unless they have been there , I ignore and dont respond to them .
AFTER ALL , life is way to short to fight with folks who are supposed to be banding together for the same cause :)
Hugs to you girly and SKINNY WISHES
Shirley
Hi there
I am 7 years out this month and I come here almost everyday even though I dont post.. Way back there were so many little groups to where if you didnt belong , you could post till you were blue and noone would reply .. SOOOOOOOOOOO, i just read and every now and again, I will post something .
I think lots just get to goal and then LIFE gets in the way and they dont come back... Sadly life too is that way ....seems once a purpose is achieved folks move on..
Having said that though , if your in this group , we hve to constantly monitor ourselves..If we are no****chful, regain will happen so quickly and then we have to try to figure it all out again.
THANK THE LORD i stay with 5-10 libs and can manage to get hold of the MONSTER and get back to basics.:)
I wish the board was was REACH OUT AND HUG FRIENDLY as it once was...I think really it could be just people dont have time once they get the weight gone and start living again.
As for the trouble makers some speak of....I never got mixed in all that ...once I see people starting to talk crap about something they know NOTHING about unless they have been there , I ignore and dont respond to them .
AFTER ALL , life is way to short to fight with folks who are supposed to be banding together for the same cause :)
Hugs to you girly and SKINNY WISHES
Shirley
Yes, that seems to happen. I was thinking about Mary the other day. I got on this board when I started my 6 month pre-op supervised diet. I learned so much from the good folks on the Alabama board and to this day look up to them as my WLS heroes. I think the problems started before I got on because there were a few that talked about how the board "used to be" when I was new.
None the less, this board is my support group. Period. I feel a responsibility to be accountable and to pay it forward and help anyone else that needs it. I'm not an expert, I'm just feeling my way through this like everyone else. I don't consider myself "cured" of obesity.........I'm in remission! That big, ugly monster is still in the shadows and I know I have to be diligent in keeping it at bay. It is so hard some days, but I know I can come here and get strength.
I really appreciate all of you that post and don't post--just knowing you are there and in the same boat with me is somehow comforting. I will continue to do what I can to answer every post on our board so no one feels ignored.
And remember, if a "disease" infects our board, the best cure is to starve it and it will die--simply ignore them.
Love yall!
Kim
Hi Kim. I am still around, but I lurk mostly. I am ashamed to say that. '
CONGRATS on the BP!!
I keep promising to come back, but then I come and read the "mess" over and over and it just makes me not want to post. The ones accusing really should learn to let things go. My God, how long can they hold on to hatred and bitterness? It will eat at you like a cancer. I hate to see people leave too, but when you got "pot stirrers" still stirring pots, it makes all the pots STILL BLACK and no one wants to be around a pot that has lingered for 3-4 years. I can see that pot full of mold and magetts. This is still a great board, but things just need to be left alone. Those that don't like others, can just ignore them. I have forgiven and made amends with and it feels WONDERFUL!! You just have to move on people!
Yes!! You are right, WE HAVE A GREAT BOARD GOING HERE!!! It is just that people can not forgive. I just moved from a city that has the reputation for never forgiving. That city had that reputation for over 60 years. So sad.
On a positive note, I will do my best to start back my coffee talks. I will try......try...LOL Be blessed and good to see you.
CONGRATS on the BP!!
I keep promising to come back, but then I come and read the "mess" over and over and it just makes me not want to post. The ones accusing really should learn to let things go. My God, how long can they hold on to hatred and bitterness? It will eat at you like a cancer. I hate to see people leave too, but when you got "pot stirrers" still stirring pots, it makes all the pots STILL BLACK and no one wants to be around a pot that has lingered for 3-4 years. I can see that pot full of mold and magetts. This is still a great board, but things just need to be left alone. Those that don't like others, can just ignore them. I have forgiven and made amends with and it feels WONDERFUL!! You just have to move on people!
Yes!! You are right, WE HAVE A GREAT BOARD GOING HERE!!! It is just that people can not forgive. I just moved from a city that has the reputation for never forgiving. That city had that reputation for over 60 years. So sad.
On a positive note, I will do my best to start back my coffee talks. I will try......try...LOL Be blessed and good to see you.
For every Goliath, there is a Stone! His name is Jesus!"
Well said Randall....I never cease to be amazed at the very small few on this board who have continually made false accusations against others and seem be unable to live their lives without trying to destroy others.
I could say so much more, but honestly, those that are
the "Wolves in Sheep's clothing" know exactly who they are and fortunately most know them for what they are.
I have learned, there is no need to try and "out" those that are the troublemakers, because with time,
they will "OUT" themselves in grand style.
I have been a member of this board for some time and have seen a lot of good people come and go over the years. I am sure everyone has their own reasons. I still read the board from time to time, but as for myself, I find that life keeps me busy and I am happy
doing the things I do. I have made many wonderful friends through this site and try to stay in touch with those that I hold dear.
I have learned a lot from this board and from those on it...one of the greatest lessons learned is that truly our actions speak louder than our words.
Take care, my friend, and continue to live your life as the shining example that you do. You live your life through "The Word" and your actions clearly show that!
"Integrity--is doing the right thing, even when no one is looking"
I could say so much more, but honestly, those that are
the "Wolves in Sheep's clothing" know exactly who they are and fortunately most know them for what they are.
I have learned, there is no need to try and "out" those that are the troublemakers, because with time,
they will "OUT" themselves in grand style.
I have been a member of this board for some time and have seen a lot of good people come and go over the years. I am sure everyone has their own reasons. I still read the board from time to time, but as for myself, I find that life keeps me busy and I am happy
doing the things I do. I have made many wonderful friends through this site and try to stay in touch with those that I hold dear.
I have learned a lot from this board and from those on it...one of the greatest lessons learned is that truly our actions speak louder than our words.
Take care, my friend, and continue to live your life as the shining example that you do. You live your life through "The Word" and your actions clearly show that!
"Integrity--is doing the right thing, even when no one is looking"
Carolyn~
Carolyn, you hit the nail on the head. "WOLVES IN SHEEPS CLOTHING" is correct. We ALL know the truth and everything has been laid out on the table, plain and simple. And they definitely OUTED themselves. You are so right again, thata their actions DID speak louder than ANY words that can be said. As for shining example. I beg to differ. Just say'n!
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