Why?

Something has really bothered me since I read yesterday that somebody was going to leave OH.  I think all of you know why a lot of people have left  the Bama Board.  The same ole same ole.  So why are we shoked when it is posted?  Have we forgot what has been done to some of these same people that have left the Bama Board?  Are we going to let these same crazy deranged ones win again?  As for me, I think not.  I have not been posting much because of some of the crap, but you know what I have a block button that I have decided to use.   I want to challenge some of you  that have left to please come back and use your block button.  Why do I bring this up you may ask?  I will be 6 years out in just a few day and have maintained my weight for the last 4 to 5 years. But we all have challenges that we need each other for.  Some of us have different things that crop up from time to time that maybe some one else will have the answer.  Okay off my soap box.  I LOVE LOVE my weight loss surgery and would do it over again in a heart beat with my same surgeon.  I truly hope that I have not offened any one but this has worried me since yesterday.

Well said Louise. Leaving only allows the ones who want to stir trouble to do just that .  IGNORE AND BLOCK BUTTON will work better as usually when someone is ignored who just wants to start crap , they go away.
I have found though that those who do that are suffering from a real unhappiness in their life or they are jealous of something or someone.
Sometimes too I think people will use any excuse to just move on after reaching goal so whatever the reason, we are ALL fighting some kind of battle in our life so I try to practice kindness ,,, wasnt always that way but since I learned what the only real thing in life is ,  I am so much better.
I am far from perfect but i am perfectly ok with that too :) 
Hugs

No we don't all know, that is why I have posted, rarely, but I have posted that I wished the old regulars would come back, but its really up to them. I do feel bad for the ones just now starting, but hopefully they can find support somewhere else, if this board never gets back to what it was. I miss them a lot, I miss the old days of a lively board full of suppport, answered questions, and support group meetings listings every week, but if they don't want to be here, there is nothing we can do.

Im not sure of the people you speak of that run the other people off. That whole scenario throws me off.... BUT i do believe you are right. Its your choice to ignore the folks you dont want to see. Leaving gives them pure satisfaction in my book.

I dont post often anymore plaine and simple because the board isnt very active and the posts i post are to help you be accountable. I know that some people dont like to talk about food all the time.. but it helps ME actually SEE...in PRINT...WHAT ive eaten for the day. I know it helps others and i also know that everyone cant always post but to see 45 views and 1 reply hurts my feelings especially when i have to make effort to get on in the afternoons.

I do however have a laptop and when i get DSL at my house i'll be starting that post up again and not caring if i dont get one single reply... because it does help me. It really does help me to see what other people especially us that are far out.. see what they are eating. So i know if im doing bad or good. and i can change accordingly.

I do think your post is great. I hope people come back. i never have been a full time member of this board and ive been here for many many years lurking. Only this year did i decide to come out and post often... I had to get over the fact that some people may not like me. (why i do ask myself becuase they dont know me) but it does hurt to post valid questions/concerns and NOONE answer...but yet you see they've replied to an old timers post seconds later. Until recently. i quit caring. A few have took me in and been extremely nice to me and for that. THANK YOU. Thank you for helping me get thru my first iron infusion. I was so scared. Now, its routine for me. But thank you to yall that did make me feel welcome. They are some that will only post to others that they "like" i feel like. Its not high school and its an open forum. I dont see why it has to be so "cliquish."

thats just my two cents. I didnt mean to post so much

Hillary, I love your "what cha eatin" post!  and I look forward to when you can do it.  Do I care if anyone responds to me.  NO.  Do I care if anyone "dislikes" me.  NO....good Lord, they don't even KNOW me, and if they are that judgemental, they aren't worthy being my friend!  I post for me, and I read posts for me.........and most importantly, I respond for ME.  May sound selfish, but to be able to finally devote the time needed to be successful in this journey, more stuff has to be about ME.  I really enjoy the loyal folks and the ones that breeze by....and the petty, mentally ill folks, well, I just pray for them.

Love you all!!  Kim

I don't know who you are referring to either but I will say "thank you" to you...Neena, Carmen, Shirley, Jan, Hillary and Kim.....I, too. have said that as a newbie I am incredibly thankful for those who have gone before me.....Y'all are my resource...you have a wealth of knowledge for things I am about to experience.  I read during my lunch hour, I loggin once I get home and I read, read, read. 

I look to y'all for the answers to my questions.  You can't always get in to see a doctor, get a nurse on the phone so with a network of helpful people at OH, I feel like I can get though a lot of stuff that, otherwise, might cause me to rethink this whole process.  I probably would go on with the surgery but you sure do give me some peace of mind.  So for all that.....Thank you, thank you, thank you.

Hi there!!!!  It is so nice to see you posting.  I see your surgery is soon.  CONGRATULATIONS!!!!  I am here on and off most days and there are several others.  You will find many that are still here and will do all they can to help you.  Please let us hear from you regarding your surgery and afterward. 

Hey Louise,

I appreciate your post. I really miss being here and please know that its not because I've been run off by anyone. I just simply don't have the time to get online during the day anymore. My new job keeps me busier than a tick in a den of dogs. Sheesh!! I've seen some remarks here by a few non-regulars and I guess I take it with a grain of salt. Its' their right to post and it's our right to ignore. I don't see any reason to get into any kind of discussion with them as it doesn't do anything but get tempers to flare or get me so upset I end up saying something I only regret.

The Alabama Board is a great group of people and have offered supports to hundreds. We may have a lot of religious posts but they too can be ignored if it bothers someone. I will never stop proclaiming Jesus as Lord. God has been with me and cared for me for 57 years now. If not for Him I would hate to think what kind of person I would be or where I would be at this point in my life. I can honestly say that God and my friends helped me keep a very positive attitude during my most trying days. I've lost a husband, lost a fiance, and gone through cancer and yet I've had the support I needed to continue on. When I first had my GBS I came here many times for advice and was always treated with respect and not like a dummy. Unfortunately, my doctor didn't give me all the information I really would have liked to have had so thank goodness for this Board. I only hope that I can help other newbies when they ask questions that we might think they should know the answer to. I have to admit too that it wasn't all my doctors fault that I wasn't very informed. I'm one of those people who hears what your saying but its hard for me to digest and understand unless I can go back to it over and over again. My surgery was so long ago and was still pretty new and even the requirements back then were very minimal. I'm still learning new facts on a regular basis.

So anyway, here's one person who can't be run off but can't be here every day because of work and no computer at home.

Hillary, I love you girl and I know what you mean about people reading your posts but not taking the time to respond. It has hurt my feelings once or twice as well. We just have to decide to keep on posting and trust that it's doing someone some good. I love accountability and it helps to let others know when I've been bad or good. So many of you posts such great posts and I don't always have the time to respond but they do mean a lot to me. Carmen, Randall, Happy Girl, LadyBug, My Froggy friend, Hillary, Gary (Vol Guy) - just to name a few - don't stop posting, I need it even if I don't respond. Now, I didn't mean to leave anyone out. I'm just old and can't remember everyone unless I can their names which I can't while I'm posting. But I do try to read everyone's posts. I love all of you and want us to stay alive and well!!

DebbieDoo

I have taken a step back or breathier if you will.. I don't come to OH as much as I used to.
Mainly because of posts being pulled that were for support or people being ugly to people who have already left and fled to Facebook. I am on Facebook all day long as it's on my cell as well. I stay in contact with those who did leave and are on their now or those who don't post or lurk here are very active in Facebook.
I do think it's wrong of OH to pull some posts that are for our get togethers for violation of the terms of service yet they don't pull posts that are public attacks on other people which is also in violation of the TOS. Don't see why they would pull a post about a get together put on by the very doctors who pay to support them. To me that is like shooting yourself in your own foot.
Ok Ive said all I have to say about that. Yeah prepare to be flamed. Shameful you have to leave, not want to speak your mind or post and just lurk.
I am a certified OH leader. I do my monthly meetings, call ins, and I promote Obesity help. (not the forums but the information that can be found here). There is no way I would go on the public forums of this site talk about flaming. People shouldn't come here and be made to cry or leave.
WOW! I really call that support.. ok off my soap box as well.
Thanks for posting this Louise! I feel much better! :)