Can you help me

I have gained so much weight. I had RNY in 03. I'm wanting to see if I have ruined my pouch. My family doc has diagnose me with Fibromyalgia. I believe if I could lose these pounds I would lose these pains. My lower back hurts so bad it sometime feels like it's going to snap into. I feel like it's someone else in my body. What would be my first step in getting back in shape? All suggestions would be appreciated. I will confess that I have not been compliant to my weight Doctor. My job gave me such a hard time to get time off, I just gave up on keeping my appointments. I'm ashamed to ask for help from Dr. Shearer. I have been layed off and I feel this is the time to start getting back in shape.
Cathy

My advice would be to get back with your doctor that did your surgery and then find a support group.  I had my surgery also in 03 and I think that I may have missed 2 support group meeting in all this time.  Also get back to the basic, protein first, no drinking with in 30 min of eating and 3o min after you finish eating,  at least 64 oz of water a day. Hope this helps you and I want to wish you the best. You can get the weight back off.

Thanks Louise for the info! I'm going to call Dr. Sherer's office and hopefully they don't laugh in my face. I need the "back to Basic" diet so I know just how much to eat. I have not had any issues with dumping, sometimes I wish I had and then I would not be back in this shape. I live in Chilton and do not know of any support groups around. I tryed to find one several years ago, but had no luck in finding one. I've got to get this weight off I feel like it's killing me, I feel so bad all the time. My reg. doc said I have low vit.D, sometimes anemia, and several other problems. I don't think he understands gastric by-pass surgery and his answers is pain pills. I do not want to live this way, I never had to have them before.

Just remember, you are #1, and you should not put your health issues aside due to your job, it is sad you are not getting the support you need from your work peers.  I too suggest you find a support group, or even better, find a therapist who can help you through to find out why you gained this weight back....remember only you can make yourself happy, no one else can.  I will pray that you will get back on the wagon and be successful, you have come too far to let it slide by.  Good luck, and best wishes for a healthy life. Farmgirl58

Thank you Farmgirl58, I'm going to do my best to get back on track. I have to confess, I have been layed off from my job since Feb. you would have thought my employer's would have been more understanding since I worked for a medical company, I was a Phlebotomist for several years. I have been depressed about it, but also burned out at the same time, I really could use a therapist for I'm a stress eater and for several years I have lived in nothing but stress. I'm going to look for work beginning in June, my daughter graduates May 9 at the University of Montevallo and then my family is going to take a trip to the Gulf for a few days, that way I want have to beg for time off. I don't think at this time that I want to go back in the medical field. I always when I was working put my patient's, doctor's first my self last, I was done a dirty deal not for nothing I done but because the doctor's were mad at the company I worked for, that really hurt me and It has taking me awhile to get over it. Thanks for letting me talk..

I agree with Louise find a good support group. Know your NOT alone.
I had to have steriod shots and have put on extra pounds. Also I have started eating bread and although it's full of fruits and nuts and has helped me with colon issues I need to find something else. Carbs are not something I need to get back into.
I don't eat and drink at the same time; and I know my support group is always there for me.
Get back to see your doctor. And find a curves; or just start walking around your neighborhood.
I am praying for you!
 

Thanks Julie for responding... Carbs are my big thing I have got to quit... Pasta, bread... all I had to do was take one bite and when I discovered it did not make me sick.... well you know the rest of the story... Coke's is something else I found out that did not make me sick... I would grab one at work when I was working for many a days with the patient load, we did not have no lunch... We would grab something cold to drink and keep on going... I have got rid all regular coke's, have just a little diet coke in the ref. We do have a curves, and I think I will give them a call... No weight loss support group around the Clanton area that I know of. We have a Weigh****chers but it can get costly. Making me some tea with splenda just can't drink plain water. Just got back helping mother finish planting her garden. Thank you for your prayers, and thanks for taking time to just talk.... it really helps!!

Well I cannot do pasta at all. Thank GOD!
I can do some type of bread; not plain bread it has to be toasted.
And I do some speciality bread that has nuts and fruits and grains in it; I started it because it helped my colon issues; and now it has become habit;
I stopped it but now I have colon issues again. I need to find the right amount of grain; cranberrys and nuts maybe in a sf bar or something or trail mix to help with my colon issues.
I certainly cannot continue to drink this crap medication the rest of my life. I am 37 and drinking 15 ml of this medication they put me on is awefully dreadful.
And then I got a form of staph because I had a pain block; I got cellutis; so they started steriod injections for 6 weeks. Well.. these past 6 weeks have been dreadful to say the least.
These 6 weeks alone I have put on at least 2-3lbs per week. So I stopped the injections.
And I am thinking of stopping all the injections as the side effects and the thought of any type of staph or cellutis again is not worth the risk to me.
I walk and I swim. But lately I haven't been. I got into learning as much as I could on my job and not so much enjoying the beach and outside these past 3 months. The weather is nice; the beach is beautiful so I am going to get back out there and enjoying walking it.
I would get up early every single day and go walk it; Get the kids on the bus and just go.
Now I go to work early in the mornings; but I am thinking I can rearrange a few things and watch either a sunrise or a sunset walk. It is also the best prayer time for me. I am alone; few others out walking... but I tell you I see the beauty in every thing Christ created for us. And I think how he has blessed me. Those conversations can go on and before I know it I've walked 3 or 4 miles!
My doctor says sand is great to walk in too - great exercise.
Wish you lived closer. I know where Clanton is..Peach country!? Right?
Maybe spring time the flowers in bloom; a nice walk and a good talk will be just the cure for both of us!
I am here for you anytime! 

I love the beach !!! It seems that anyone out in the early morning they are always much more friendly so much eaiser to say and get a "Good Morning". I'm always the first up to hit the beach at sunrise!!! I love it... We are mountain people also... I just love to see the smoke rise on the mountain...early riser their also... like you said perfect time to talk to the Savior. We will be in Gulf Shores around the week of June 6- 13... I can't wait to dig my feet in the sand.... Yes Peach's, Peach's, Peach's everywhere !!! I eat a few peach's, but not many...

I have no words of wisdom, as I am pre-op.  But wanted to let you know you are not alone.  Hugs to you.