Pity Pot

Nobody can help me with this...but please listen for a moment.  As I have been home for Thanksgiving, I have discovered that all of the gold necklaces that my mother and I had in my Dad's gun safe have been stolen.  Three rings and a pair of earrings are also gone.  Then my grandmother's berry bowl set is gone and many other pieces that belonged even to my great grandmother.  I am very upset.  This is added to what is already missing of my dolls and tin toys.

I know it is wrong to feel like God has it out for me, but that is the way I feel.  I have tried very hard to be a good person.  My dad and I both tried to help this person that we suspect stole all of this.  It is not like I have been mean to her or even stingy.  I have seen that she got nice gifts and have not been unappreciative to her.  But I am taking this so personally. 

I know material things are not supposed to be important, but these are things that are precious to my entire family and I was entrusted with them by my mother, who died in 2000.  I feel that I have failed and that God is punishing me by letting this happen.  I don't think I deserved to be treated this way, but there is nothing I can do to stop what has happened and I cannot stop feeling that part of my life has been taken from me.

I am angry, but there is not place to put that anger.  I don't know what I did wrong to derserve this happening.  I am very upset.

Karla don't be sad . I know it hurts but it is the person who took your belongings that is wrong . It may feel the way you explained , but in the end she will be the one to pay for her mistakes. You are a good person and do things right. It just seems the better you are to some you usually get it in the end. The ones who do the right ends up getting done wrong.  I have been on the receiving end myself. Love Ya and hope you feel better

Oh, Karla, that is terrible and you have every reason to feel this way.  Is it the same person that took the other stuff?  I remember your posts about that. 

Karla, I am so sorry that this has happened. I cannot even begin to feel your pain. I am NOT going to preach but God cares about what happens in our lives. He isn't out to  get you, even though I have felt like that myself. There are dirty, mean people in this world that will take advantage of others' goodness and that is what happened here. I pray that she would come to feel so badly about what she did that she will bring them back where they belong. I know that is little consolation now, but this too will pass.

Thank you all, you are most kind.  I feel better having at least talked about it.  It is like when my house burned, I have to focus on what I have that remains, not on what is lost.  I started looking around and seeing what was left.  These things were important because they belonged to my grandmother.  I still have some other things that belonged to her...so tangible things about her are not completely lost.  That makes me feel a little better.

I am asking Dad to get an alarm system installed, I want him to get the kind that has fire, burgler, and emergency with 24 hour monitoring.  He is older and I would feel better if he had some security in place.

In the final analysis, I am thankful for the things that she didn't take.  I am thankful for the things that I still have and perhaps I can keep at least some of them.  I am having a lot of empathy with Job at the moment.  It seems that misery is knocking at my door constantly.

I know deep down that everything has a purpose and that everything is always for my good, but folks, it is really hard to see that from where I am standing at the moment.  To have to recover from a major burglery and a house fire in a 7 year period is difficult.   Then you throw in the death of my mother and a major relationship break up and things are a little rough at my house. ,p>

I will get over it, but right now, I want to complain and complain loudly.  I am really pretty angry that I have to "get over" anything. 

Thank you for you understanding and support.  It is important to me.  Your words have brought me comfort.  Thank you.

I have felt that way so many times and still do on occasion.  I used to feel that I was jinxed because everything that could go wrong always went wrong.

People do tend to take advantage of the goodness of others and it seems that every time I try to help someone, they take over.  Like my mama used to say, "If you give her an inch, she'll take a mile."

I think I would politely ask this person if she knows where the items are.  I would ask her if she happened to see these items the last time she was there because there had been a burglary and the police might be questioning everyone who had been in the house.  I would probably say that a neighbor had seen someone taking some things out.  But then I'm mean.  You're probably not as mean as I am.

However, she will probably lie out of it. 

It's so awful when someone takes things that are sentimental.  I remember having things stolen from me by people whom I had helped and being devastated, not only by their taking advantage of me and their disrespect of me, but the fact that something that was PRICELESS to me would probably be sold at a flea market for 50¢.

If I could go back to all the thieves who stole from me and I just "got over" it, I would NOT get over it but would file a police report, not only for my sake but theirs.  They needed to learn that there are consequences to stealing.  By just "getting over" it, they learned that it was easy to just walk right into someone's life and steal from them.

There is always a bigger picture and perhaps your Daddy's installing an alarm system may save his life someday.  Had this not happened, you wouldn't be seeing that there is an alarm installed. 

I don't know the situation and I'm no wise woman sitting on a hill, but just wanted to let you know that you are not the only person who had given and given and given and then got screwed over.

You said your Daddy was older.  Mine is 93 years old.  Aren't we blessed to have our Daddys around for Thanksgiving?

Hugs,
Joni

Yes, my father is a blessing that I treasure each day that I have him.  I love him more than any object and want to spare his feelings.  At his age he does not need me mopeing around over stuff that he couldn't help being taken.  My dad has always been an excellent father.  Unlike so many young girls, I know that when my dad entered my room in the middle of the night, it was because there was a danger out side and I was going to be protected, not harmed.  I know that if he told me he would be at a certain place at a certain time, he would be there or he would be sending someone to explain what had happened.  Even now, what ever he says you can take to the bank, even if you don't like what he says.  He was a strict disciplinarian, but not abusive.  He demanded respect, but gave it.  He continues to live with a high moral code and is a gentle giant.  He is 6 foot 4 and weighs about 250.  He is not a little man in statue or morals and integrity.  I do love my dad, as do a lot of other people.  He is  a man of honor.

Karla, you have every right to be angry/upset because part of your life is now gone!!!  I am SO, SO sorry this has happened to you for you are one of the most kind people I have ever met!  Please don't allow this to harden your heart.
I too have been stolen from (in the past).  It was someone I knew, and it happened slowly over time.  In the end the last time they took from me, my entire jewelry box with class ring, along with a cross necklace my Grandmother gave me when I became a Christian and all was taken...I can NEVER replace these things.  This was just my jewelry I am speaking of...there is much more to the story that this person stole from me and my children.
I had to eventually just put these things aside, KNOWING that this person WILL NOT PROSPER, THEY WILL NOT BE SUCCESSFUL in their life.  It may seem as if they have "won", but this is only a temporary thing for this too shall pass. 
Please know you are in my thoughts & prayers!  I KNOW you hurt.  I KNOW this is painful.  Just hold on tight and KNOW it does get better.
I love you my friend.
Jackie

I do truly believe that everything has a purpose.  How we handle things is a testimony to who we are.  While I am angry and hurt by this event, I still know that this has a meaning that I will understand in the future.  While it has cost me dearly, everything is not gone.  I still have some precious pieces that I have found, that she did not.   I still have the most treasured of my mother's jewelry.  Mother liked white gold, and I am sure that the thief thought they were silver and left them.  The silver was not touched.  This thief was not well versed in what was valuable and what was not.  The theft is spotty, but thank God, we have managed to save at least some of it. 

You are right none of this can ever be replaced.  The feeling of safety can never be restored.  The helplessness and the anger over being taken advantage of still lingers, as I see that it does for you also.  I can make the best of it, but I am helpless in the situation to restore what is lost.  I think it is the helplessness that irks me the most.  I can usually handle things and people, but this is something beyond me.  Oh, I am sure that God will handle it, even if I never know how He does.

You can also bet that I am phoning a friend that I know that she sometimes cleans for and telling her what has happened, so she can be aware of the problem and check her stuff.  I am also calling the police, because it is the right thing to do.  They cannot help me, but maybe they can find out what to do or give me additional clues as to what recourse to take.  I need to file the report.

Thank you for your prayers.  I think I need a lot of help in that department at the moment, as I am feeling very discouraged and helpless.  I want to do the right thing, but not the vindictive thing.  Please continue to remember me in prayer, as it is helpful in the most intimate of ways to me.

Karla, I am so sorry about what  has been taken from you.  I cannot say or do anything to ease the hurt and anger you must feel.   This person that has stolen from you and your father will lose.  I know that is no consolation, but she will.   My daddy died when I was 18 and the only ring he ever gave me was stolen from me years ago.  It was not worth any money, but to me, it was priceless.  I am so sorry about what has happened to you Karla.   I hope this person is stopped, though.  If she has done this to you, you are probably not the first nor will you be the last.  You and this situation will be in my prayers.