I have never made a secret of the fact that both my parents were alcoholics.  I have spent my entire life being looked down upon because of that fact.  I have NEVER taken a drink in my entire life yet I have carried the shame since I was able to crawl.  Today was the last straw.  When I get good and mad I don't have a bit of sense.  Sadly I blew by stack and let my tongue fly without my brain being engaged.  I don't really care what you say about me as I am 50 years old and I can take it but DO NOT talk about my kids or my grandkids or I will jump on you like a circle saw.

Today I was asked (by the owner of the newspaper that I work for part-time) to visit a business that had called to place an ad. When I walked in and introduced myself I was immediately attacked verbally about my parents past.  She then commented about my living with Bob before we were married.  Sorry but we were married 15 days after we met so there wasn't much time for "shacking up" as she called it.  She went as far as to make comments about my DAUGHTER having a ba****d child.  That was when I lost it.  I will be the first to admit that my daughter and S-I-L were not married when Jordan was born but they are very happily married now and have 3 precious children and a thriving business.  We thank God every day for bringing them together as it took his hand in his own way to settle both of them down. They might not have gone about it in the way others might have done it but it wasn't for us to judge and certainly it wasn't for anyone to call my baby names.

As I said, I lost my temper in a way that I have not in a LONG time.  I know I will have to answer for the things I said to her in defense of my kids.  Strange thing was after I said my peace she looked at me as if I had not said a word and asked if I wanted cash or a check for the ad

If I could I would give you a big hug, it must have been the day for us all to vent, I feed a lady at a nursing home, yesterday was the pits for her, without going into details they screwed up royaly. Then no clean clothers, that were I just asked were they were and they said they didn't like the way I talk to them in the laudary, well, tough. Its just to bad. So, sometimes we need to get upset with stupid people. Thats life, my mother was an alcoholic so I know were your coming from, sound like you have it together. God Bless you.

Wow...Gwen.....this person must be miserable inside to say such horrible things to you.  I think people that act like this are usually very unhappy.  I am so sorry that you were hurt so badly.  Just know that people do care.

Carmen

I have had all afternoon to think about this and as I was typing, my anger for her seemed to leave me.  I called her a few minutes ago and plainly asked her why she said the things she did about my grandkids. 

Her answer?  Because she never had children of her own and she herself has never been able to completely overcome her own addiction. She told me that she was JEALOUS of me.  Jealous that I managed to have a normal family. 

I am still struggling with the hurt her words caused but the anger is gone.  I now realize that "She" wasn't the one talking this morning. 

Now I am off to deal with my tongue.

Gwen I have come to figure out that people that put others down are just jealous and very unhappy with thierselves.  I don't blame you for getting upset with her. I'm sorry you had a crappy day. May tomorrow be better for you! Sending you lots of hugs!

So sorry you had to go thru this today Gwen!! It is still so sad to me that ppl are so judgemental. So glad you stood up for yourself!! Have a Wonderful BLESSED night!!
Love Ya,
Michele

Gwen,
Sometimes that anger comes out in all of us. To be attacked because of what your parents did was wrong, to attak your children and grandchildren was wrong. As Jesus said, let him without sin cast the first stone. I am not perfect by any means..and neither is anyone else.
I would ave prolly been in jail when she brought up my kids. That brings out the wildcat in me!!

Trust me, I wanted to slap the pure S**T out of her.  Ironically the brother of our owner is a deputy sheriff in that county and saw me go inside. He walked in and heard the entire thing.  He knows my tongue and was waiting for the "final blow". Luckily there were no customers in the shop. Bill stood close by but let me have my say. He told me later that he was positive I was going to crawl over the counter when she made the comment about Jordan and he was ready to grab me to keep me out of trouble.

Louise, I am a Mama Tiger about my family.  I am just glad Bob didn't hear her.  I would have been hunting bail money for sure

You go girl. I can relate to a lot of what you said. Sometimes I will have to give you a history lesson. Quit beating yourself up. Nobody has a right to talk about our children or family. I think that she owes you an apology.

Gwen,
People who try to hurt us have a grudge or jealousy as you know or sometimes JUST plain mean,   You have every right to have been upset..
You know what though,,,Looks to me like your living Gods word as your not the messager but can spread his message,,  I think you did a good job in the end of it all.
YOU arent your parents and NOONE is perfect in this world ..A sin is a sin and she sounds like she is eat up with it ,,,I know itr doesnt lesson the feelings for you but have lived a life of shame in some respects too and now finally I am to the point that I know the right way and do the best i can ..
Hugs to you missy  ...ALL GOOD CUBS protect their young:)
Shirley