Where does everyone find happiness? And how? This year has been a real roller coaster for me. Something one of my boys said to me yesterday made stop and take a look at my life. I am so dysfunctional it is not funny. He told me we never do anything as a family anymore. He feels dsconnected from us. We are just 4 people living in a house because of cir****tance. And in some ways he is right. It is a daily struggle to keep going, but I do because of my kids. What I need to learn is how to reconnect as a family. I talked to my husband this morning and told him all these things. I don't think he gets it though. I don't want to be unhappy. I don't want my children to be unhappy. But I don't know how to fix it. Gosh, I am a basket case right now. I am overwhelmed with worry. I know God can fix it if I hand it to Him, but I keep snatching it back.
Thanks for reading guys.

Hey Mrs Shimmer !! We all have issues with our Family, I made it manditory that we as a family get together as a family , we cook a meal together once every two weeks. It's a day that if the dishes aren't done right after supper it's OK, It's at my house cause there isn't any place like Mothers LOL. Just ask him something he would like to do . He's looking for a sigh from you. I know as a mother you know his favorites. Just take the time togeather it will all work out !! Love Ya girl !!

PS My day is today with them Trying to figure out what the menu is !!

Hey Renee,

I know exactly waht you mean.  Frank has been unemployed for 3 months now.  We can barely make ends meet.  We have not done anything all summer long as a family (we do go to church every Sunday).  Yesterday I just had a meltdown.  So last night I told Frank I wanted to take the boys to Chuckie Cheese.  My boys are 10 and 12, but this was the only thing I could think of that we could all do.  My 12 year old was too keen on going at first, but when we got there he said mom I am glad we came.  So we spent $50 we really needed to spend somewhere else so we could have some fun.  God has a plan for us all.  I know Frank will find a good paying job, but in God's time and we have to go through this for a reason.  I do believe it is to make us stronger and closer as a family.  I hope that you find what your family needs.  Play ball in the back yard, have a pick nick, or jus****ch a movie together.  Get suggestions from your kids.  We were just going through the motions.  And in some ways we still are, but last night was so great for my family.  I put a smile on my kids face that I haven't seen in so long.  I am praying that your famiy will find that as well. 

Love ya,
Linda

My son has just started college, he works part time at night and we all go in different directions. On Thursday nights, I cook supper and my sons girlfriend comes over and we all eat together. I cook something that they enjoy eating. One night over the weekend, or everyother weekend, we play board games and eat supper together. My husband doesn't play games but he eats with us and listens to us act up. Things have not been this good in the past. There was some distance between our family. Just in the past 5 - 6 months have things gotten soooo much better. I can't tell you how many times I have turned our problems over to God and before I said Amen, jerked them right out of his hands. I finally just left it with him (for themost part, I still try to grab it once and a while). Find out how your son would like to spend some tme together as a family and giv eit atry. Even if everyone doesn't take part, make it a rquirement they be present. Hope it all works out!!

I am praying for you.. and you have made the first step.. bringing it forth talking it over with your husband. Now you can work together as a family to make the extra effort to make a connection.
I am bad about snatching things back too.. always thinking I can do it.. but with GOD I know all things are possible.. without God mission impossible!!!

Renee,
I think we are sisters honey.
I am going to PM you.


Love you,
Lindy

I do hope you find the answers. I know how much your family means to you.
I do understand where you are coming from!
Kim

I find my happiness in my family.  I know what you mean about being disconnect, people just existing in the same place.  My husband and I were both working and going to school and really got disconnected and I realized I missed my best friend and wanted that relationship back. We got counseling (because I'm not a good communicator) and now are closer than ever and especially now that we have our granddaughter in our lives, we are doubly blessed.  Before we got caught up in our separate lives, we had always been a family that sits and eats meals together.  We are back to doing that again.  It's a great time to connect and find out what is going on in each other's lives.  I hope you find what makes you happy.  And if you find the meaning of life in the mean time, share that one with all of us.

Sandi

 

I know exactly how you feel. It seems the only thing on my mind right now is my surgery and my sons schooling. I know I'm driving my son and hubby crazy because those are the only things I seem to talk about. Its very stressful for not only me but them also and I should keep that in mind. Right now I'm not able to get outside and actually play with them and they won't do it themselves unless I beg them. And if they do get out there it lasts maybe 10 mins then they are arguing or bored and would rather do something else. We don;t have the money to do anything else. Lately I have been lashing out because of the things going through my mind and because of quitting smoking and nerves about surgery. I know I should just pray about everything and let it go. I do pray but its so hard to let it go. I'll be praying for us both doll. I hope things get better soon. (((HUGS)))

Renee...my happiness lies in the Lord and in my family.   Make a time each night to spend with your children and husband.  Just turn the t.v. off and talk.  It is great to do that.  When my kids were younger, we played Uno or something like that at night instead of sittingf in front of the t.v. I honestly believe that t.v. has hurt families a lot.   People just don't communicate with each other.  Renee...just trust in God and know that He wants your family to be close.  He wants you all to be happy.  I am praying that you will reconnect as a family and find the time to communicate and find each other again.  I know you love your family, you just need to come together again.  You are in my prayers.