I'm torn

As you know, I'm in Germany. Remy is one week old today and TJ got his deployment orders for Iraq. We knew he would be deploying but it becomes REAL when the papers are in his hand. I am supposed to return to the states on August 26.. he deploys on August 31. Kelly is stressed and I am conserned that this will throw her into postpartum depression. I'd love to stay longer but I have obligations at home so now I'm torn as to what to do. 

Advise, prayers, and words of encouragement are needed.

Good thoughts and prayers to you for guidance on this..!

Personally, I would stay. Everyone back home has others to rely on and can get along without you. I imagine that being that far from family along with his departure is going to be very traumatic for her. I think that Kelly and TJ would be relieved to know they had you for a few more weeks.

 

althea

Thanks for the reply. I'm still trying to get in touch with my family to let them know what's going on and we'll take it from there. My husband may insist that I stay here or I may return home and come back in a couple of weeks.

How long do they have in Germany?Has she had issues with post partum  depression before?
I understand how torn you are. Mom's want to be there and protect our kids from all of this. The unit's spouses usually  band together pretty tight when the soldiers are deployed.
The best advice I ever got when going overseas was to NOT sit at home. Of course my husband wasnt deployed so that is a whole other issue at hand. I had my second child in germany, no family to help ect.
I know it is a tough time and my thoughts and prayers are with you and the family.
Kim

They will be here for another year after his deployment. The not sitting at home is an issue because she doesnt have a German driver's license. The driving is crazy here.. I'm not sure I'd be able to drive. The autobahn is not even the crazy part.. I'd have to put that in the easier category but the regular streets are unusual and very narrow and most are one way. She can get German license but public transportation would be more logical. I'm not sure if all towns are as crazy as here but I'd opt for walking if it were me.

I forgot to answer the questiona about postpartum depression.. no, she's never had postpartum depression but she did have depression during this pregnancy. It was very stressful on her.. her husband had heart surgery just before they moved, their oldest son has (a mild form of) autism, and she got pregnant right after they got here. She cried for months. (Part of it could be that they have very little day light during the winter months). She talked to the doctor about depression but couldnt get any medication because she was pregnant. (I know pregnant people take medication in America but her doctor does not prescribe anti-depressants to pregnant women). She has an appointment tomorrow and I told her to discuss it.

Oh Gina...I know that this is so hard for you.  You are in my prayers that God will give you the answer you need.  Love you!!

Thank you. I know it'll work out... but I may get an ulcer in the meantime.

Hey Gina. As a mother I know that you are very stressed over this situation. Ask yourself what you really want to do. Then do it. I am betting that you are wanting to stay with Kelly until after TJ leaves. Just tell Billy that he will have to eat out for a few more days. Everbody here will get by until you make it home. Just remember that even tho Kelly will have the support of the rest of the wives that is left behind she will not have any family with her. My gut feeling is for you to stay a few more days if possible.Call me when you can, I can't get the time right to give you a call. If you need something please let me know.