My time has come

I want to say thank you to the many folks who have befriended me here.  Your friendship means the world to me.  But the time has come for me to leave this board.  I am tired of getting flaming PM's from people who don't even know me personally or anything about what's going on in my life....personal or otherwise.  I am a single parent with a troublesome teenager and that...in and of itself....is more than most people could deal with on an EVERYDAY basis all by yourself with NO help or support from family.  I do it daily because I HAVE TO as his dad is not in the picture and hasn't been since he was 3 years old.  He's 16 years old now.  So yes, he has some anger issues and so do I although I try hard to surpress them and just roll with the punches...which sometimes comes faster than I can duck.  In the midst of all of this, I also have an 11 yr old son at home to care for.  In my personal life, things have been most difficult the past few weeks.  Some of you know what I am referring to.  It has been overwhelming and very painful but nonetheless, a big pill I had to swallow.  I came to OH and the Bama Board for weight loss surgery support.  At times, I have received support that was both gracious and kind and helpful.  At other times, I have felt like an outcast and felt as if I wasn't wanted here.  I think this treatment is what leads people to leave and just lurk.  Sorta sad but it is what it is.  I have made some life long friends on here and yall know who you are.  But right now with so much going on in my life, the negative vibes and comments I get from some of you is something I can live without.  I will continue on with the secret pal program as it is something that I enjoy and want to do.  It's the one thing in my life right now that makes me feel good and brings a smile to my face.  But right now, my heart is very heavy and I'm dragging.  If you can spare a moment, please whisper my name and lift me and my children up in prayer.  I believe in prayer and I believe that God hears our prayers.  Thank you for your friendship and I wish EVERYONE of you continued success in your weight loss journey.  I will never forget the negativity and rejection I received as an obese person.  I thought with WLS/weight loss I had escaped that but still find alot of that on this board.   I don't want it and I don't need it.  I love you all and God bless. Vicky

Sending healing hugs and prayers, Jan

Vicky, I have no idea what happened i guess im out of the loop but i just wanted to tell you im sorry you feel unwelcome here.  I've been on the recieving end of drama on this board before also and it can be a bit overwhelming. I would love to stay in contact with you, can you PM me your email address?  I think you have my cell number..call me anytime.  I will miss seeing you around here. Heather

You have a PM.

I love you Vicky..I pray you deside to stay and not let anyone keep you from the board.  Block the people that is bothering you!! You are in my thoughts and prayers my friend.  Love, MicheleLuv

Vicky,

I don't know why some people feel like they have to send PM's and be cruel or poke into personal affairs but I do know that you are loved by many and we would hate to see you leave. I have missed hearing from you and was afraid you were feeling this way. You are going through a dark time right now and to be quite honest I don't know how you can still smile and be sane. You are a strong woman and you will survive this and become even stronger. You did nothing wrong, remember that. You did what you had to do and its none of our business and I mean not a single person on this board has the right to consult or advise you unless you specifically ask for it. I definitely want to stay in touch with you and hope that you know I am sincere. I will lift you and your family up in my prayers. You need God's peace right now and He will give it when you can accept it. Call me anytime you like and I'll be a friend.

Love,
Debbie

Debbie, Thank you so much.  Your post made me cry.  I am going thru a VERY dark time right now.  It's so dark that I don't think I can even reach out and touch the hand of God.  That's why I am asking for those of you who care to please pray for me and my children.  I don't know how much a person can take before they crack.  That is why I am cutting lose the things that cause me distress.  I cannot cut off my children.  That would be like cutting off my head.  I know you are sincere and I thank you for your kind words.  I love you. Vicky

Vicky, I know exactly what you mean.  This is the very reason I don't post much on here anymore.  It's sad really.  I wish you would post the PM's and out these negative people!   I wish you wouldn't go, but I understand!!

You have a PM 

Vicky....I am so sorry that you are leaving the board.  I truly wish you wouldn't.  I have had people email me and pm me at times with much negativity.  I just figure that these people are hurting they have no where else to vent, so they are venting at me.  I will be praying for you and your children.  I know God is faithful and I know that He hears and answers our prayers.  You are always welcome here no matter what anyone may say.  I would sincerely like to apologize for anytthing that has been said to you to hurt you.  I agree with you that we all had enough negativity when we were obese.  This should be a place of refuge.  Vicky...I am always here if you need to talk.  I don't know what has happened, but I promise you, I am praying that God will put His big arms around you and hug you up close and let you know you are so very loved.  Love you!!!!  (You have a pm)