What would you do???

Last night a young man my DH and I befriended when his wife left him a few months ago who has since gotten back together walked into my back door last night....no knocking, no ringing the door bell ....NOTHING, just walked in.  I was down here in the computer room when I heard the back door open and I thought it was Jill coming in early from work.  Well, I heard someone (thinking it was Jill) in my kitchen when I asked "who's there"?  And I heard a male voice telling me who it was.  I jumped up and ran into the kitchen and asked what he was doing there.  You see, my girls used to have a bad habit of not locking the doors when they would leave and it appeared that NO ONE was home cause my car was in the garage with the door down.....so he had walked in thinking no one was home......he mentioned to me a few weeks ago that he had left a movie here at our house and that's what he told me he was here for.  DUMB ME, believed him.  I told him where the movie was and he was on his way.  After he left, I called and told DH what he'd done...after talking with DH, I was in the kitchen and noticed my daughter's Ritalin bottle was turned over sideways.  I had just had it filled yesterday....I decided to count them and there were 30 missing.  I could not believe my eyes.  We are good friends of his parents and we go to church together.  I dont' know what to do or how to handle the situation.  What would you do?  I need advice quick cause we will all be at church together tonight.

You MUST let him/parents know that the medicine is missing.  Also you must let him/them know that no matter how much you value their friendship you can not and will not tolerate anyone walking into your home without knocking or in some manner announcing their arrival first. This is a safety issue and also shows that a greater problem exists.

You are so right.  If he will do this to a friend, then what will he do to others?  I have talked to Kyle about it and we have decided to talk to his parents tonight.  I think if Kyle or I confront him ourselves.....no telling how he will react.  He has severe ANGER issues and takes medication himself for it.  I don't know what he was thinking when he walked into our home like that.  We deadbolt and double deadbolt all our doors and have for quite some time since we know how he can be and the girls are afraid of him anyway.  We really tried to help him out with his life and tried to guide him in the right path....that' s why we befriended him in the first place cause no one else could handle him.  I worke with teenagers just like him and thought I might could help him, but I see there is no helping him and I think he really needs to be institutionized for his many problems.  I would not say that lightly.  I MEAN IT from the bottom of my heart.  Even with all the deadbolts and the security deadbolts and other security measures we have I still fear for the safety of my home. 

Please PRAY for me.  The anger I feel has been building inside of me ALL DAY!!!

Oh Elle,  I am so sorry to hear about this....I have to agree I think I would speak with the familyfirst.  This might not be the 1st time that he has done something like this and it might not be the last.  Lets not only pray to give you and Kyle strength for tonight but also pray that this man gets some much needed help from the Lord as well.

It's not the first time he's done things "illegal"!  I just thought he wouldn't do it to US!  We were trying to HELP him.  Boy, was I ever WRONG!  He has a long long list of Juvenile crimes.....nothing as an adult that he's been CAUGHT at.  After speaking with one of their neighbors it seems he's been helping himself to some tools of theirs as well.

Just my 2 cents, since you all go to the same church, maybe you should have your pastor there too.

Believe me,  WE WILL!!!

Also change your locks as he might have gotten a key while he was at your house a couple times working.   Then I would have a good ole fashion "Uncle Jed and Jethro" talk with your family about leaving doors unlocked. It is a crying shame when we have to live behind locked doors in our own home because of things like this.

He didn't have a way to get a key made cause he doesn't have a car.  He was always dropped off at our home or we picked him up from his parents home.  But, you are right, better safe than sorry.  I think I will get those locks changed anyway.  The FAMILY has been deadbolting the doors ever since he stopped coming over here 3 months ago.  We knew what he was capable of and now they have learned a very valuable lesson and haven't left the doors unlocked that time, but geez, to think he walked in while I was at home.  NOW, that SCARES ME!!!  I will stay behind locked doors from now on.  The only way he got here the other night, he talked him wife into letting him drive her car to pick them up some dinner at a restaurant just up the road from me.  He NEVER drives anywhere.  Not even sure if he has his license or not.