Opinion on recent Posts.....

I do not post very often but felt compelled to say something in regards to Karla and her remarks about Randall and the relationship with his family. As someone who watched her parents pay the way for my brother to have 4 kids with three different Mom's, break enough laws to warrant him being on probation and having to pay restitution, he has never payed for his "incidents". I believe that sometimes we have to have tough love with our parents. Up until the time my mother got ill I never said MUCH about them bailing him out every week, my mother worked taking care of an elderly lady to pay his fines, gave up having time with my father to watch his kids while he had "me" time, endured him stealing ( literally) from me. my parents and other family members just becasue he was THEIR son. I finally said enough, said what I had to say and GUESS what they still helped him. After several months my mother told me that i was right and that the only way he would change was if he no longer had them to depend on. They stopped, he stopped coming over, talked mean and left me taking care of my dying mother, his 4 year old, my grandma with severe dementia and a father who had lost the will to live. Thank GOD that Robert was sent to me when he was he helped me undertand that I was going to be okay. My mother died, I was ALONE, my brother was in Birmingham with my father who had a stroke, he was fighting with his wife while I watched as my mother take her last breath. A week later he came and had the audacity to ask for help from me. I had to tell him no. He went to my father and cried, my father siad i had to. I refused, that was when my father finally broke down and told him he was cut off, on his own, return the car that was my dad's and stay away from our home. That was two years two months and three days ago. Since that time my brother has: stolen money from his job, broke his probation, not paid any restituion, fled to another state, and ended up in Jail. Guess what, he waited four months to tell us where he was, and then he was back to the same game. I admire Randall for standing his ground. Karla I admire you for your honest and professional opinion. However, Karla unless the issue is yours ( ie: you have lived it NOT just a watcher/bystander) then you have to give your opinion without JUDGING how someone handles their own family issues. Often we make our opinions known without having any first hand expereience in what the issues are. What you wrote to randall was uncalled for. Accusing someone of NOT helping becasue they are too involved in their own life is NOT professional and just plain mean. Randall's mother is an adult, she helps her daughter BEFORE she worries about her own needs. Maybe you should offer some advice to his mother on how to make her daughter responsible for her actions instead of chastizing Randall for not giving his Momma the money for her phone? This is my opinion.....Flame me ask for it to be pulled.....it is a TRUISM......We should not JUDGE OTHER PEOPLE....PERIOD...... althea

yea right-you go girl. i mean you didn't HAVE to write all that stuff about your family but hey, its your family and your business and if YOU want to share thats cool. at least we arent finding out that your bum brother is yours by calling each other and gossiping-you just say like it is. ditto on everything girlfriend just said.....yeah!!!

Hey sweet lady, As I was reading your post, I could relate to everything you said. When my mom was dying the horrible death of cancer - I was doing it all! (And never do I want to imply here that I wouldn't do it all over again!) My brother came in talked with her, would hand you money if she needed something, but as far as actually carrying her to the cancer center, the hospital, any other appointments, helping keep the house clean, cutting the yard, feeding her, getting her to the bathroom and I could on and on and on! Now this is the same  son  that lived with her until he was 32, whom she waited on hand and foot, cooked his meals, washed his clothes, wrote out all his bills, fix his lunch, etc. He moved out at almost 33 --------------------next door when the neighbor decided to sell their house! And she still did all the things listed above and cleaned his house on top of it all. My mom died when he was 37.  And within a year, he finally got a wife!  I guess, after the maid was gone, he decided he needed another slave to do for him! Now I know that I just aired alot of dirty linen but when I read this post ----- it just touched a nerve. No one knows what another is going through unless we share, and I appreciate you sharing your story-------------------it makes me realize I wasn't the only one going through he*l when I was losing the woman that I loved so dearly!    Who wasn't only my mom but my best friend! So thank you for sharing this today! Lisa and Fish