your right   speedtrap is a real inspiration  to this form  at least for me he has been  when i first come  i used to   read everyday .... then  i used to think wow i dont know if i can do this i would open the form sit for a while and read peoples  post   i usually tried to stay away from anything negative because i didnt wish to get scared by someone elses  misfortune  and it seems to work well for me ....  i think  joining weight wise really helps you   take control of your life again and when you  think you cant do it  then you meet people here who  help you every step of the way ..  ive learned a great respect for  obese people  for  i know first hand how sometimes its a struggle with  how people treat you  how you feel about yourself and how you limit yourself  ,,,,,,,,,,,  when you  set a goal here and you  get thru it   then you learn how to live life again as well ,