help...

.. Im so confused and yet very excited. But now my husband has so many questions that even now I'm doubting this surgery. He means well but he thinks that i will be scary thin after surgery and sick 5 to 10 years down the road....we dont have many after surgery facts and thats what's scaring him. He doesn't want me too be sick and too thin/weak... and not getting enough minerals and vitamins...then the surgery is UN reversable...?? I really want to have the RNY....Do we have any evidence about long term RNY....? Is the lap band better since it is reversible. I will ask my doc these questions as well but i thought you people could help calm my hubby.....and myself down...lol

The RNY is the surgery with the most data and evidence of long-term patients. The doctors and nurses in the Red Deer clinic don't like the Lap Band and there is LOTS of research and evidence that show patients don't have long-term success and many end up having the band removed and having a revision to the RNY or the VSG (sleeve).  Check out the forums for the individual surgeries...you'll find many many patients that have had successes with the RNY and VSG and aren't scary thin.  Yes you'll have to take vitamin supplements, but I think that's better than having to be on a bunch of other medications due to complications of obesity.  Talk it out with your doctor, check out the forums on this site, you'll find a lot of useful information.  Good luck to you on your journey!

When I was preparing for surgery I spent 100's of hours researching the different surgeries and used this forum to help support my choice and decision.

I will be 3 years out from Sleeve surgery in September and these past 3 years have been the best ones of my adult life. I'm not crazy thin and at my current weight I am literally still considered over weight according to the BMI charts, but I'm happy and healthy. I take my vitamins everyday but really even without surgery you should be doing that. I actually have always had some vitamin deficiencies so surgery didn't change that.  I am able to walk forever and even r 5 km now and I wasn't able to do that since childhood.

My personal opinion is only based on what I know but the lap band has very low success rates and most people will lose in the beginning but have regain which leads to having the band removed and than revising to another surgery either by pass or sleeve.I think it's a was of time and energy to have it done and than put yourself at risk later with 2 more surgery to accomplish what you set out to do, it's unnecessary surgery when you have great choices like sleeve or by pass.

good luck with your research and I hope you are able to see the light at the end of the tunnel and choose a surgery that will suit your lifestyle. It's probably one of the biggest decisions you'll ever make next to marring your hubby of course :)

 

Kee.

I agree with what has been said here and I have friends that have had the surgery and they are not scary skinny.  They are however enjoying their lives more then they ever did fat.  Healthier and not taking medications that they had been on for a long time when fat.  Taking a daily vitamin is good for you.  Even when people consume a lot of food it does not mean that the food is meeting their nutritional requirements.  I'd rather take a few vitamins a day then insulin, blood pressure medication, water pills and all the other stuff that goes along with being obese.

This is a major step and it can be overwhelming with all the info you need....but it is so worth doing the research and finding out how you can get your life back.  Good luck!

There are a few things to remember.

Surgery is just a tool to control your eating. It is still up to you to eat right and exercise. You have complete control over how much you lose and your health. If you want to be scary thin, you will make that happen. If you don't, you won't.

Surgery doesn't fix all the emotional/mental baggage. Again, back to it being a tool.  Some folks change one eating obsession for one exercising obsession. Some folks don't change their eating, and don't lose well. Some folks take it too far. I suggest getting emotional support by someone who specializes in food disorders if you find yourself one way or the other.

Your story is your story, their story is theirs. No two people are a like.

I think you need to stop and think for yourself and where you see your self 10 yrs from now. FOR ME, that was a wheelchair, possibly dead. I hit 321lbs and couldn't walk, sleep or be intimate with my husband. There was NO quality of life for me then. I had surgery in February, in total I have lost 60lbs and now I can run on my treadmill for 13 minutes straight!

Only you can make the choice for you. Don't let friends, family, spouses, etc sway you. You might just need to be selfish for this. Its always better to have support, and I hope you have that.