what did you say?

My surgery is on the corner....my family and closest friends know what kind of surgery I'll have....but I don't know what to say to the others....for now the official story is that I'm going to have a surgery for my hernia.....I have one....and the surgeon will maybe fix it....but that's not the truth.....They're not stupid...they will see that I shrink....but in the same time....I'm afraid to tell them.....I'm afraid of the "ho you took the easy way"....

 

what did you say to your co-workers? to the neighbors?   

I honestly think you shouldnt worry about telling others  i think  if it was me and i was debating what to say  my words would be after i started losing weight ,    I've educated myself  to  a better lifestyle and i took a very important road  to  make that happen for myself and my family .. if then they asked  what i did to change it i would   paint the whole picture of how your day has become  your eatting habbits and your goals ,  you know you will always  maybe get one or more person not understand the fight you did  to get where you are so  put your energy into  people You know care and  will understand you  and not judge  you ,   hope this helps  also  i wish you the best in your surgery  or whatever you decide  in your life 

I understand where you are coming from. I decided to just tell people I was having the surgery. Anyone who cared about me, thought it was the best decision ever. Not once did anyone say I was taking the easy way out. I even made it my facebook status at one point and I even said something that I know you think I am taking the easy way out...and people actually said that what I was doing was way harder than the traditional method of just diet/exercise. 

So many people reached out to me to tell me that they were so happy for me.

I often say "I am waiting for it to click in my head, but its not and in the meanwhile I am dying and losing years of happiness with my family"

Who can then knock me for making my decision when I say that?? lol

Be strong and know those who care about you are just so happy they will have you longer in life.

I said nothing about surgery to anyone.

When asked how I was losing the weight I said I woke up on morning and realized that I had to lose weight, and that I've have to do whatever it takes to achieve my goal. Trust me I said that and it wasn't a lie. I didn't intend on surgery when I joined Weight wise but one morning I did wake up and realize that I had no other choice but have surgery. When a co worker or friend would say I heard you had surgery I'd say oh ya I did have stomach surgery, I just neglected to tell them I had 80 % of it removed. It's a very private thing to go through and those who have never walked in your foot steps may not understand.

Living in a different town than most of my family and friends made it a little easier to not discuss it but to each their own. I choose not to tell and talk about it and that worked for me.

Whatever choice you make will be the right choice for you.

I'm pretty open about having surgery. To anyone that asks why I didn't just diet, I say that I DO, but I chose to take the extra step of surgery, whi*****reases my chances of KEEPING it off from 2% to 50%. At that point they generally get it.

I also draw pictures.

I told my closest family and friends - their support was so important and necessary going through all these changes.

I told other friends and work colleagues as I felt comfortable - and in hindsight, I probably wouldn't have shared so much with some of them, because I did lose a few friends as I lost weight. These were friends who were uncomfortable with my new lifestyle - and I realized our friendships were centred around an identity of struggling big women who like to joke around. We were joking to cover up the pain of it. I hope that some day they will be ok with how I look, because I feel I am the same on the inside.

For most people who only knew me in a peripheral way - through work or something, and were curious - I told them I became gluten intolerant (well, I don't eat bread much any more so it's not a lie) and excercised a lot, also true.

If it's someone who is honestly asking because they are also struggling with weight I always tell everything and in detail with contact info of the program. That's how I got in, because my mother's friend told me the story of her process. And it's changed my life for the better.

Honestly - two or three years out - nobody can even remember you were big any more, except those who haven't see you or photos of you from a long time ago. So this is only an issue to stress you out for the first year.

They might not even recognize it as weight loss - just that you look better/ different but can't see how. One guy I knew couldn't figure out how I had changed and he was literaly like, "it's a nose job. Your nose looks bigger." So funny - he was right - my face was just less chubby so my nose did look bigger!

Tell them you just woke up one day & had this rockin' hot body. It's nobody's business really but yours ;)

~mtrai

Thank you everyone....

 

I took the time to think about it....and I choose to let the life go on and follow it....So for now I'm now comfortable to talk about it to everyone...so I'll respect that....maybe one day I'll feel good enough to tell everybody....maybe not....I'll see....

 

:)