Post Ops I need advice! (RnY but others can respond)
I had a surgery date for RnY at the end of January but I ended up having a reaction to a drug and gaining 13lbs in a week and getting hospitalized in November which postponed my surgery.
My parents are going to be helping me after surgery get my child to school, baby sit, help me, etc. I did not know when my new surgery date would be, they only said maybe sometime in March or April. My parents decided to go on vacation from March 16-23rd. They booked all the airplane tickets, etc.
I got a call today that they are getting me in as a "pick-up" date March 15th. This means the surgeon was not originally going to be in OR this day but now suddenly is and I was squeezed in. I have until Monday to decide if I want to take that day or not.
I guess what I am asking here is how long did you need help? (Especially if you have kids). Also, did you just need someone to care for kids, or did you need someone there with you too? If I send my kids to friends houses after surgery but do not have some one here and am home alone will I be fine? If I did that I will have surgery on a Thursday and be home alone starting Monday, so that would be 4 days post op.
I really want this date, I need to get it done and over with and already post-poned my date once. I also will not know when I will get a date again if I do not take this one.
What do you guys think? I appreciate input.
1st consultation booked- May 2011Approved for surgery-Oct 2011 Surgery Date- March 15, 2012
Hw-321 Cw-305.8
I can only speak to my experience as a sleever and a single girl with no kids, but I will say that I was a zombie following surgery and there is still some ongoing questions as to whether I should have been released at the time I was. I was unable to stay awake and was on oxygen right up to them kicking me out of the hospital.
I had my mum come and stay with me following surgery and I needed someone there. I needed someone who could stand long enough to get my super tiny meals together. She also drove me around because it was a week before I could drive myslef and I couldn't wear regular clothes for about a week.
So... my advice is take the date and do whatever you need to to make sure that your kids are looked after by someone other than you because you are not going to be in the condition to look after anyone but yourself and even you are going to need some help.
Seriously, take the date and make it work. Surgery is the very best thing I have ever done for myself, don't deny yourself getting started in your new life.
"And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom." - Anais Nin
Highest Weight: 242 lbs 1st Clinic visit: 236.8lbs
Weight at Surgery: 193.1 Surgery Date: May 18, 2011 Current Weight: 134.4 lbs
As to why I couldn't wear regular clothes for a week, when I had surgery they banged up my ribs which I had broken years ago, doing things like trying to put on pants or anything that required me to bend was effing excruciating. I had bought a couple dressed in advance that I could just pull off and on over my head and in May, it worked.
I did have some super low yoga pant capris that I could wear as long as I folded them over and kept them on my hips. My incision next to my belly button was the first one to heal fully and I think it is probably because I was really careful not to let anything rub during that first week.
Another good tip- get a body pillow. I am not a big mover when I sleep but the slightest shift in position while my stitches were fresh woke me up, but as soon as I got a body pillow that I could wrap my arms around and throw a leg over, I was able to sleep uninterrupted.
If you have any other questions, please feel free to ask. I have not been super active on this site in the last while but I am hoping to be able to share my story more and more the further I get out from surgery and the more confident I become that my weight loss is not going to disappear any moment!
"And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom." - Anais Nin
Highest Weight: 242 lbs 1st Clinic visit: 236.8lbs
Weight at Surgery: 193.1 Surgery Date: May 18, 2011 Current Weight: 134.4 lbs
Kee.
HW:274 SW:238 CW: 150.0 1St goal: 199.8 2nd goal:174 (100 pound lost)
My Persoanl Goal: (HIgh)150 (Low)140
1st goal acheived December 27th/2010. 1 week after my 3rd month surgery anniversary.
2nd goal acheived June 4th/2011. 2 weeks after my 8th Month Surgiversary.
Gall Bladder surgery April 12,2012
You can either believe it will happen.....or believe it won't. Both are self fulfilled prophesies. For Me it has happened. My Surgery was September 21/2010
I miss your face! When are you and K coming to visit next?
You inspire me and I am so grateful to have you on my journey.
Chance
"And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom." - Anais Nin
Highest Weight: 242 lbs 1st Clinic visit: 236.8lbs
Weight at Surgery: 193.1 Surgery Date: May 18, 2011 Current Weight: 134.4 lbs
I miss you too and I was just saying to K that my next appointment id Friday February 10th and I would love to be able to stay overnight so that we could get together. It's been way to long since I've seen you and Adri. My cousins husband is home now so I kinda hate to interupt their time togther by staying there but who know's that may change, we'll just have to wait and see.
Kee.
HW:274 SW:238 CW: 150.0 1St goal: 199.8 2nd goal:174 (100 pound lost)
My Persoanl Goal: (HIgh)150 (Low)140
1st goal acheived December 27th/2010. 1 week after my 3rd month surgery anniversary.
2nd goal acheived June 4th/2011. 2 weeks after my 8th Month Surgiversary.
Gall Bladder surgery April 12,2012
You can either believe it will happen.....or believe it won't. Both are self fulfilled prophesies. For Me it has happened. My Surgery was September 21/2010
"And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom." - Anais Nin
Highest Weight: 242 lbs 1st Clinic visit: 236.8lbs
Weight at Surgery: 193.1 Surgery Date: May 18, 2011 Current Weight: 134.4 lbs
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