Husband's attitude

So I have sugery next week and my husband won't talk about it, he won't even mention it.  Not sure what to think about it.  It doesn't matter, it is my decision and I am doing it, but he isn't being supportive or anything........

Well your not alone.  Maybe its a guy thing? Maybe they're just not good at sharing their emotions?
I think they might be unsure/scared of us having surgery. Or unsure of the future because our and their lives are going to change. 
Scared because we are going to be hot mamas!! lol

Thats why I appreciate this forum. At least the people here we can talk to about WLS and get some support.

You'll do great! Remember this is ultimately for you!

My fiance was the same way, he rarely would talk about it, he never asked questions and he seemed so uninterested by it. Now that all changed after i had the surgery. He spent as much time as he could at my hospital bedside, he took great care of our daughter, he made me jello and puddings and become what i call my #1 biggest fan. I found out later that it was because he was scared of the whole situation and if he didnt talk or recognize it, it didnt exist. The morning of surgery he dropped me off at the hospital and left me there to go to work. I was scared all alone and the moment sucked but once he knew that i was still alive and that i wasnt going anywhere he was fantastic. I wish he had opened up and told me all his fears prior too, i wouldnt have been all alone in the moments prior to surgery...... but to look back at it i understand. Maybe he is just scared OR maybe he is just male and downsizing the importance of it to you, lol!!!

Hope he comes around!! AND good luck next week!!!
Best choice i ever made (aside from my daughter;) )

I live 2.5 hours from the hospital and am having to get my friend to drive me down cause he "can't" take off work.  then my mom is coming to stay with him and the kids while I am gone, I am glad he isn't going to be there as I think it will be too much stress to have him moping around..........

sounds like he is a little jelous....yes my husband didn't want me to do it either....totally man thing. they are so afraid of something happening during or after, maybe that we will change and won't love them the same. don't worry, things are going to be fabulous, once you start losing all that weight, looking like a million, he willl want to be all over you....yup those men love and need us, they just don't really know how to show it, guess thats why we think differently, men and women

I'm not saying this is your situation but you should know that it is very common for the people we love not to be supportive of our surgery as they feel that once we lose the weight we will change and won't love or need them.

It might take you reassuring him that you will love him no matter what your size is to get him to come around to you having surgery- you may also need to tell him point-blank that having surgery is about your health and living a long time, not to improve your looks and replace him with a younger, more attractive model.

The divorce rate among post-surgical people is much higher than the general public because a lot of the time once we get more self-esteem we do trade up or stop taking all the crap we did as bigger people.

Again, I don't claim that I know anything about your situation only what the statistics tell us.

Best of luck on your journey!