I'm Going Home

Ok so long story short for those of you who don't know. My dad's cancerous stomach tumor has progressed and spread to his lymph nodes and esophagus. He is considered terminal and he has been told he's lucky if he makes it 3-6 months. I know Doctors are not God but they are specialist dealing with these kind of things so they kinda know how long people can last with their condition being so severe.

Anyway My sister flew home and then called me and said If I'm coming I had better do so now. She doesn't think my dad will even make it 3 months. That being said I'm Going Home.

No one knows about my surgery back home so I've told my mom I have lost weight and that I don't eat like I use to. I told her I use a small plate, only one serving, no pop, no junk food and no eating out. Mostly proteins then veggie and carbs. She seemed to understand but seriously I felt like I was lying to her.

My fear is that people will question my new habits and maybe it's just me over thinking things. They might not even notice or maybe they'll think it's stressed related. I already gave my mom a list of things I tend to eat more of and she is going to be sure to have them for me.

I won't be on-line after Friday for a while but I'll be thinking of you guys.

Kee.

Kee: I'll be praying for you. I personally don't think you are lying. You are not saying that you had surgery, but everything else is true. I regret some days about how open I have been with my surgery. I feel like everyone is watching me and going to judge me on what I put in my mouth or do/do not eat. Do what is best for you and in your time if you want to tell people that you had surgery, it is your choice.

Good luck with the family visit...even though the reason why you aren't going done isn't the best one - make the best of your time there though.

My prayers are with you and your family.  It is your decision weather or not you tell people about your surgery.

Personally, I have told lots of people.  I have lost 140 lbs. so far and feel great, however I lost the weight.

Anyway, my prayers are with you.  Take care.

Rhonda

Kee
Good luck with your visit home.  I wish you are were going in better cir****tances.  Make the most of the time you have with your Dad.  It sounds like you Mum is being supportive with your diet changes.  You are not lying you have made a life style change and for the right reasons.
I am  going for surgery next week and have only told a few people what I am having done.  My family lives overseas and I have chosen not to tell them as 1 I don't want them worrying and the other I grew up with all the comments about my weight etc  and don't want to go there anymore.  We all have our reasons for having the surgery and they are ours alone no matter what anyone else thinks.
You are doing well with your journay so keep it up and do what is best for you.
Take care and thinking good thoughts for you
Karen

Kee, I no what it's like to have a parent with cancer, as you well no just make the best out of the time your there, and if you don't feel like explaining how you now eat, don't your just on track to a healthier lifestyle. Try to keep the good thoughts, Arlene

i prayer for u and ur famliy i am proud of u and respect u noe telling ur parents but belive if u did they would support  u and be proud dont feel like ur lying follow ur heart take care an enjoy ur famliy reuion
take care best wishes

Hi there Kee,
I am so sorry for your family to recieve this terrible news. I hope you can all be together to help each other through the process. I am sure your father would be proud to know what you are doing to be healthy.
It's a stressful time, so try to be easy on yourself! We are all thinking of you and your family.
~mtrai

hey you just go and be there for your dad.. and just play each day as they come... so sorry to hear about your dad's illnes... my thoughts and prayers ar with you...tammy

So sorry to hear of your father's diagnosis :( Just be there to comfort and relive all the wonderful moments and memories shared.

Please don't let yourself fall into the trap of skipping meals, etc. We're to have 1200+ or so calories even now and we have to eat eat eat. Don't need this stress on your body with the added stress to your heart now with your dad.

Sending hugs your way!!

Sorry to hear about your father.  You will be in our thoughts in the upcoming days/weeks.  If any good can come from this situation it is that he will pass away as quickly and painlessly as possible, if that is what is to be.  My grandparents both died of cancer back in 2007.  So, I have an appreciation of what you're going through.  Stay strong when you need to be strong.  Grieve when you need to grieve.  We'll be here when you're ready to come back.

Sincerely!
-- Xcalibur