My Journey & Second Thoughts

My husband has had issues with my whole journey I think feeling threatened by my weight loss that he thinks I am doing it so I can be out with other guys etc.
I decided when I started this journey that is was about me for to  many years I put my kids and him first and forgot to take care of me.
When he questions my decision which I made on what was best for me, I tell him this is for my health and so I am around to be there to see our youngest graduate and to see our grandchildren and to feel good about myself for a change.
Unless you have a major weight problem I think it is hard for people to ge their heads around why you would do this.
It is not the easy way out and I was told at the last pre op class alot of people through the clinic do not make it to surgery.  It is a reward for a lot of hard work.
Stick with the program regardless of whether you decide on surgery or not.  The supports offered are great and do help.
I am booked for surgery on Nove 16 and still have times when I doubt my decision to do this.
Good luck

You're right he has heard the complications that people have had, but there are others that don't have complications. For every person that has complications, I know there is one that didn't have any. Some people are ashamed of the surgery so they don't come to this board, or the support group. Others just don't have time. It is a MAJOR surgery, so there are risks but the Doctors at the clinic make that perfectly clear.

Im glad u have found the inner strength..


Its not easy and as people have said "we "have to do this for us.. I can honestly say.. I had surgery in April 2010 took guardianship of my 3 wk granddaughter in June . I look at that little princess every day and think .. What If.. I hadnt.. I can do things" that at 400 + lbs I couldnt have done..

Yes  My Surgery wasnt an easy thing and i did have complications But Its getting better ..  I hope your hubby will attend the sessions, go to your appointments ect I found that my partner was a lot more supportive of my surgery when he was more informed and could hear for himself... I look forward to someday meeting you.. I found the other biggest support I used was Journalling,. that did and does help.. Put it out >> dont keep it inside... Hugs

Hi Karen, and thanx for your supporting words and help.  We did in fact meet already, I was the 4th, at our meeting at Londonderry Mall food court.  I'm sure we will meet again on this journey.

I'll keep plugging along, day by day, week by week, month by month....No matter my decision in the end, it will be a positive approach to this "problem"

Thanx all for your help and support.