Need positive vibes!

My in-laws came to visit this past weekend and my life turned upside down!!!

My husband's birthday was on Sunday and I wasn't going to get him a cake as I was literally scared of having the trigger food in my home. So low & behold, his parents buy a cake and after I mention that we weren't going to get one due to the above reason, my father in-law grew pissy and was like " We'll just throw it out then."  I had to go down to my laundry room and have a cry it made me that upset.

For the first time in a yr, I have had a trigger again and all I did the last few days was eat and eat and eat. I didn't eat bad just ate. Seeing crappy food in my home wasn't good and having them not respect my lifetyle was so upsetting.

They have since left this morning and it's a relief for me to get back on track but I'm so disappointed in myself. I don't have cookies or pastries or cake or ice cream in my home and just becasue they eat it , doesn't really give them any right to having it in my face. Hell I don't even want my son to have all that ****

Ohh and on Wednesday I was golfing with some friends and I mentioned that I didn't know how many days I'd get in to golf and didn't want to commit to a certain night to only have to cancel on my friends etc and my one friend piped up- "It's only lapascopic surgery right?" No one in that circle knows but her and for her to say that WLS is "only" lap surgery is such a stupid comment.  I'm going to be sore, immobilie, not able to lift and hold my baby. Frick my sad just thinking about it but its not a simple procedure. I'll not be able to golf, drive, EAT......

* insert scream*

Send some positive energy my way please. :)

Oh god Kim it sounds like we're both at the same I want a scream place but for different reasons.
I'm sorry that your in-laws are so disrespectable of your healhty choice of living and the decisions you have made to get to this point.  I would have cryed too. Thats why i haven't told anyone in my family besides my sister and boyfriend. I know what they are like and they judge me cause i'm over weight but then they would judge me more for looking at wls.
And as for you friend, well then ya it may be only laprascopic surgery but they are still cutting you in 5-6 different places and taking out a part of your insides, like hello does she not think that its gonna be painful for a while and that you might be respecting them by not wanting to commit to golf just not to be able to show up.
I feel for you girl. Turn on the music loud and dance out your frustration with those 2 little boys. They love it and I'm sure you will too. God Luck.

Kee.

People suck! What a bunch of A-holes!

Now for my earthly wisdom (baring in mind that I am 28, single with no kids and a dog that lives at my parents):

Breathe, my friend.
Smile knowing you are back on track.
Ignore the snide and judgemental.
Concentrate on what life is going to be like when you are healthy
and chalk up their insensitivity to ignorance.
Move on.
Concentrating on the ****ty things people have done to us is like swallowing poison and expecting the other person to die.

They are already over it and you shouldn't have to carry their poor behaviour.

Also, I find that hoping in the shower and screaming into the stream of water from the shower head disguises the noise.

 

Oh no! That sounds tough. I am finding it hard to deal with my friends etc. as well, they just don't realize the incredible amount of focus it requires to do this.

I suppose you could just remember that the struggle you have had is actually part of your success- don't forget that it is actually a good thing that you think the way you do now... and how long it has taken to get to that place.

Maybe your friends are just trying to lighten up the situation and just wish things would be normal- people act really weird with health issues... Denial is rampant!

You're not alone! And you are doing so so well. Don't forget!