Depressed.......feeling self conscious........confused

Well it has been almost 2 1/2 mos since surgery and for some strange reason I am reallly depressed lately. Not sure why, I mean I understand it is a life change and I no longer have my old eating habits, but maybe its the fact that I feel like I dont have any friends left or I feel that since my weight is falling off I feel like I am scrutinizing my body even more. I either was covering up how I felt before with jokes or I really didnt care how big I was but I find that now everytime someone tells me I look good I feel like running away! I don't think I like the attention or know how to deal with it. My husband is about the only person *****ally supports me and thank god for this website! I am really struggling with the fact that I can't eat certain things and can really not go out to eat and enjoy myself, I would rather stay at home! I do feel great and love that I have more energy for my family but I am really sick of everybody at work telling me how I am not fun anymore or asking me why I am so miserable. I didn't think I was until I sat back and looked at things. Everyone of my friends stopped asking me to do things with them since everything seems to be related to going out to eat and they get mad at me when I get excited about how much weight I lost so I cant even talk about it. Well would love to hear if anyone else is feeling this way or has any suggestions what to do.

Don't let others be the dictator to your feelings! If your "friends" can't be happy that you've lost all this weight and aren't willing to change the way you hang out, then are they really friends? What you've done for yourself by having this WLS is a huge deal... You should be proud that you're healthier and happier not only for yourself but also for your family! Good Luck Angel

at this point you need to think about the most important thing... YOURSELF!!! your #1 be proud of your accomplishments! your doing great and don't let anyone take that away from you

also .. . from support groups I found out that our hormones are in our fat .. . and as we lose our fat, the hormones are shifting like crazy and we are on an emotional roller coaster. You have done a great thing .. . you will be better and your life will be better . . . and you'll find new things to enjoy. I still go out with my friends . . . I've started making jokes that I'll go . . . and they can each give me a bite of their food . . . have fun and relax and look at what you've accomplished - be proud . . . and put that smile on your face just for yourself, if for no other reason!

You hang in there! I have a couple of friends that I feel are jealous of my weight loss and they don't come around much or talk much when we are together. Don't let them beat you down you be proud and go for the gusto! Go out to eat just share a meal with some one., That is what my husband and i do. I still enjoy going out to eat I just order something I can eat and feel good about! Hang in there and be proud!