Depressed! not lost much weight lately..........

First of all,I am a really slow loser.I mean I can eat only enough to keep a bird alive,exercise my big butt off and do everything Im suppose to and only lose ten lbs a month....BUT...since October ive only lost about 8 or 9 lbs and I am so discouraged and depressed,granted the month of December has been mostly my fault because of all the temptations I havent resisted so well........but other than that I have really been doing what i should, I really need some encouragement right now!! Can anyone tell me what I need to keep me going??? Thx. Thursann Hensley

you need the dr.s answers on why your not losing the weight.

I am newly banded, so very inexperienced here-but after reading the posts from all the "experts" on this sight I have found both a similarity amongst everyone but also a huge variance on how much people lose, how fast the weight comes off, what they have to do to get it off, and how they feel about it. The only thing that is for sure is how I am feeling at this moment. And I have to be responsible for that. This whole experience is mental/emotional as much as it is physical. When I signed on for this I knew that there would be a huge possibility that I would fail. I am ready for whatever comes at me. I will most likely make the wrong choice, I always have. I will undoubtedly be disappointed-that's my biggest problem. I always say that whenever I have expectations I am disappointed. And I am! I hate that I am never satisfied with myself or my food or my action/reaction to things. I am never satified with anything! My moments of happiness are so far and in between that when I am truly happy I am too surprised to even enjoy the feeling! Isn't that sick???!!! I guess what I am trying to say is that I am hoping with this life change that in some small way I might change my thinking to be ok with myself at whatever weight I am. If I am not gaining I should be happy. If I am just staying even I should be happy with me. If only I had more faith in myself. Life is too short to let it slip away always waiting for something to be happy about. I think I will go for a walk and enjoy myself today. Good Luck to you Thursann

Good luck to you as well Stacy,and I do understand where you are coming from...its hard sometimes to fight the demons you have fought all your life as an over weight person.However,I refuse to fail!!I will NOT give up even if it takes me 3 years to do it in!! and you shouldnt go into this either thinking you may fail! I may not be losing like I want to but I know by no means am I failing so if I can stay positive you can too. I dont know you,but I believe in you...the way I see it, If I am gonna go through all the expense,physical pain,and mental angui**** takes to have the surgery then by heck I will eventually get to where I want to be!(guess I just gave myself the pep talk I was needing) lol but my point is,ya,Im depressed about it and dont understand why its so hard for me and easy for others,but ...I wont give up,I will hang in there til I get to where I want to be...and you are right life is too short,thats why we need to quit being so hard on ourselves! Take care and hope you enjoyed your walk!

I really understand what you are talking about. Then, again I am only 3 weeks out with an RNY. I lost 22 1/2 lbs those first 2 weeks and then I was able to get on real food and last week I didn't lose anything. It is so very discouraging. I am with you with the eating like a bird and trying to resist temptations when it is "holiday time". It is hard, but eating 6 tablespoons of food a day is ridiculous to not lose. I talked with the nutritionist and she said I may not be getting enough calories in. She said when you eat an egg (medium one) cook it in butter. What? It is quite opposite of what my life use to be. So, I was told to add a 5.5 oz V-8 for a snack and 1 oz cheese for another snack. If I eat lunch meat, chicken... use mayo with it. In little ways get some calories with it since the portion size is so small. With one meal a day eat 1 oz of potato with butter or canned fruit. She said she didn't want me to go in Ketosis... which on the Adkins diet you want! So... it is all discouraging. This certainly isn't the "easy way out" of dieting as it does take a lot of work. I am just hoping some numbers will go down on my scale when I weigh in this week. I am a little impatient too. They said the first 6 months is the biggest weight lost... so I wasted a week with no weight loss... I feel I am competing with time. I guess this all is one day at a time. Keep your chin up! Becky

I TOTALLY understand Becky. I lost 25 lbs the first 2 weeks...then the darn 3rd week STALL!!! I didn't lose anything. I use FitDay to keep track of my daily intake. My daily calories are between 590-760 calories. I knew to expect the stall from what I have read...but it is STILL very frustrating.

Boy - do I ever know what you mean about feeling that you are in a race against the clock - I didn't lose last week and my mind is freaking out a bit. I even joined a calorie counting website - mostly to track protein but I also want to make sure that I am not inadvertently eating 6,000 calories. It is weird but I just don't trust anything, especially my judgment, after 25 years of dieting and still being morbidly obese. This feels like a total mind bender right now.

ya,thx guys for the encouragment and everything..i guess we just have to keep on keeping on!lol giving up isnt a choice! best wishes.