Kelly,
First a big hug for you and then a teensy (I hope!) kick in the fanny.  Just promise to return the kick when I need one, 'k?   Although lately that seems to be all the time.  

Don't let YOU stop yourself!   You may only ever, ever, ever get this one chance to make this surgery work.  I am one of the rare lucky ones who got a do-over on wls and was able to get to goal.  Though, what Ro said is soooo true...it is VERY hard to stay at goal. !!!  I am so miserable over my current little gain. Being TOM has caused me to regain the good progress I made and I'm right back where I was a couple of weeks ago and so frustrated.

But....I'm NOT, NOT, NOT going to lose the battle this time and you can't EITHER, girl!  I failed my first weight loss surgery and won't let you do the same thing.  You are at a critical stage here and are feeling discouraged.  Find something, anything to hold onto and get help from.  *Definitely* us here but you also really need local help.  Do you have any support group options locally or within a reasonable driving distance?  The  WW idea might be a good option to consider.  Just something to get you over the hump of this disappointing time. 

Kelly, you aren't being a big baby or a whiner...far from it!  You are so smart to get back here even though you want to hide.  I have the same problem from time to time too lately.   Wanting to stay away is a good signal that we need this more than we know or want to admit. 

What kinds of things can we do here to help you?  Would getting the daily eats and moves posts help at all?  Would you have time to participate with your school load? 

Let's brainstorm here and see what will help, ok?

HUGS!!!!!

Molly

The friendship problem may be connected to being so SMO for many years.  It may be due to the age differences in my area.  We are located in a small lake community, which has a split mix of young families and old timers, who raised children that are my age now.  Occasionally, I see their children, but that is not often.  Even when DH & I join-in to our beach club functions, there is an absence of our same-age peers. 

My lack of social skills is a different part of the equation. Sometimes I ramble on and feel that it turns people off... later I feel down and like I miss an opportunity... like I blew the conversation.  I've made friends from work over the years, but the friendships always were limited to that environment.  People get busy and fit others in to slots... the work friends... the church friends... etc.  I miss the "girlfriend' outings that I had years ago.  I blame the lack of friends on myself.  I haven't had any arguments with people, which is good.  How busy can everyone be??? 

I got a little blue today, when I saw a lot of cars parked outside my neighbor's homes for Labor Day BBQ.  It would have been nice to be part of the gathering.  We were not alone; 2 of the Guys and their girlfriends visited.  We had a really nice time, but I miss adult company and friendship. Thanks for understanding and letting me complain a bit!

I do think that you, Diana, Marsha, and Rachel.... and the many "Lurking Dec Sisters" can make it to goal.  Whatever you feel is missing from your eating plan, is worth discussing here and putting into action.  Weighing and journaling has become a compulsion with me, but it keep me honest too.  I'm really blowing the exercising even after I was told that I had to do it to keep my bone density and muscle tone intact.  Probably everyone has some part of Weight Loss that needs to be improved upon.  I can't imagine that all of the rules are followed all of the time.  We are only human! 

Thanks for your concern and offer of help & friendship.  It does mean a lot to me!
OXOXOXO
Ro

I've looked at this post today and truly go blank.  You have neighboring friends, but a problem losing weight.  I have the opposite problem.  Weight stinks; loneliness stinks. 

I lack long-term friendship skills... You seem to be saying that you lack weight loss skills... Both can make a person want to scream, "When am I going to get this RIGHT?" It's about trial and error... about giving it a new twist... about finding a way to commit to a different plan of action so that you get different results!  

Don't be so hard on yourself... but do work hard at getting it RIGHT... Goal is within your reach.

BTW, everyone who made it to goal struggles with staying at goal... I'd bet on it... that everyone has a fear of regain... it's the "long-term" element of our quest that makes it a true success.

Perhaps... making a post directly asking other Dec Member, who are struggling with meeting goal to reply and keep the thread on-going... would help.  One long post... that you could share your action plans on... a mini group.  There are many "Lurking Dec Sisters", who share your embarrassment and need support too.

Does this make sense???   Does this help???

Oops I knew you were Diana, just saw the Dr Name Dana, sorry I know you though now that I have looked better , not enough coffee this morning. You and I have chatted about this issue with our control or lack of before and the feeling bad because everyone in this forum does so well. I know we can really help each other. I too start out each week well Monday I will be good and Monday comes and I am right back at it, How do we change the habit, Let;s work together since we are the slow mo's here, thanks for responding Diana, here's to a good week and you are off to great start I will get in there and drink my shake too thanks again Kelly

Kelly
I am glad you posted this..As you read from my post I am soo not happy with me and hate posting each week that I had another bad week..This week was NO better either. This morning I picked up a cookie bar and set it back down and made myself a protein shake as it HAS TO STOP. I am going to "try" to get back on more of them till I get back on track again. I am embarressed here and other places on what I have done..it is NO ONES fault but my own. We can do this together!!!
Hugs
Diana (not Dana..lol)