i just want you all to know  i myself tried this plan  didnt seem to work for me  i ate ever 2-3 hrs   low carbs very high protein and very high fiber   still didnt take away the hunger for  me   i didnt loose one lbs  even though i only tried it for 4 days   and to top it off i didnt have a BM the whoole 4 days  and that  never happens  to me...so i am not sure    y  ...  i seem to do fine   i can eat white carbs   i eat light breads  and low carbs wraps   i eat alot of south beach foods..i try and stay at 1300 or less  w/ calories  and i always have atleast 100 grams or more of protein   i dont count the carbs  but  i am always hungery  and dont think anyhting  will help.....

i am in the sam boat  lol   i dont care about  it  i dont want it  or need it  lol  !!!!  i did talk to my surgeon about  and all he suggested was   if i was really concerned about it  then he could send me to an endocrinologist   to check my hormonal level....i didnt care to much to go to any more drs at the moment  so for now i will live w/ it...and w/ out it    LOL 

Nothing helps.  I have had serious issues with bleeding since my surgery and it's finally under control.  I also am on antidepressants for major depression.  I am at wits end trying to explain to my b-friend my issue, he tells me he understands then he turns on me and gets frustrated.  I am glad to have lost the weight and it really doesn't bother me that I don't have a sex drive.  My b-friend I think for the most part is being selfish.  I am really having a hard time dealing with the fact that he is behaving the way he is.  I have a lot to deal with and I was just wondering if there were others out there that know how I feel.  Thanks for responding, I appreciate it a lot.

Definitely discuss it with your physician or gynecologist to rule out any physical reasons.  I don't have much interest in it except when I am ovulating (no menopause for me yet) but for me, it is because of the prozac I take for depression.  It's a bad trade-off but I'd rather have little to no interest in sex than be depressed and eating for self-medication.  Just my choice.  I'm sorry you are having trouble with the b-friend over it and hope that it can be worked out.  Not to be too personal or gross but do you think use of a lubricant would make it less painful for you?  Do talk to your doctor about the problem and best of luck with it.

Molly

Aw Ro, I feel so bad for the situation you find yourself in with friendship.  Consider yourself hugged.  {{{{{{{{}}}}}}}}  I seem to have an opposite problem....after working with the public for so many years now I don't want local friends.  That's bad, isn't it?  Honestly, I get so much out of the relationships we have here that outside of my friends at work I just want to come home and not 'be' with anybody except my own family and my Dec. surgery family. 

And I'm really not a cold person either, actually very outgoing and chipper at work.  That feels like part of the problem though.  You know that old thing about being a vessel and if you pour all of yourself out you have nothing but emptiness left eventually and nothing to give to others.?  Well, a lot of days I get home from work feeling like that.  As though I used up all my good cheer at work and then get home feeling tired and sad.  The logical thing to do would be to quit this job and find something else less draining but I'm one of those people who abhor change and just the thought of going through that is enough to make me break out in hives.  Literally. 

I'm glad that you have family close to you to be with but I do understand the longing to have a big social scene now and again like your neighbours.  Doesn't the media portray every holiday, every sporting event as a great big old party that our fabulous, wide circle of friends is supposed to share with us?  My daughter sort of lamented the fact that when she gets married it'll be a really, really small wedding because we have so few relatives left living and so few friends.  That's pretty bad, I guess.  Why doesn't it bother me enough to take action and become a social person?  I think I'd actually make a very good hermit if I could have the internet still. 

What you wrote about part of your problem being from previous MO days makes a lot of sense.  Seems like a lot of us fell into a category of either being the life of the party type and trying to be loud and make a lot of friends by being self-deprecating or maybe going the other way and trying to disappear into the scenery so as not to be noticed as being so fat.  (will that word make it through the text editor?)  I don't know about you, but there aren't very many MO people I've known over the years with really and truly healthy self images and a lot of self love. 

Sorry...how did my soap box get out????  

Well, I'm not looking forward to weigh-in tomorrow and it was too tiring a day to even fight off the munchies tonight.  Just trying to control it by having healthy stuff to graze on: a pan of egg beaters with a sprinkle of lf parmesan and Mrs. Dash.  Yippee.  But I can go in the kitchen and grab a forkful without too much guilt. 

Now who is being whiny? 

Molly