divorce and at 154 lbs!!!

Well hello friends, I haven't been on here in forever. I hope everyone is doing well. I just want to say #1 I am happy as a clam that my hubby and I are splitting!! We decided about 2 weeks ago and he is now sleeping in guest room and we are co-parenting. I am allowed to come and go as I please, he is with the kids most of the time, he wants to be. Me I am a little disconnected right now from my home life. #2 I am down to 154 lbs, the lowest ever!! I've been eating very little, probably 600-1000 a day (please don't flame me, it's just a phase) I am totally healed from my PS I went shopping and bought clothes in the JR dept only. Jeans were size 5 and 2 size 7's junior. I feel estatic #3 I am starting to date again and it feels fantastic!! Been out on 2 dates, one of the men I have known for a while and another is a friend of a friend. Again I hope everyone is doiing well....take care, Erin

Sorry to hear about your divorce.. Can I ask what brought this on? Was your marriage in trouble before WLS or did it start after? Beatriz

I haven't really been in love with him for a couple of years now. So for me the decision wasn't hard. He is hurt, but I am not spending the rest of my life unhappy. The wt loss just gave me the confidence and courage to move on!!

Congrats on the new weight! Be sure you are taking care of yourself though Erin! You don't want to get deficient in protein or other vitamins ok? Then you have another ball of wax to deal with! As for husband, I am sorry you have decided to split up, that has to be hard for you and your kiddos. I have to say something.. I am happy you are able to venture out and start dating again but you know me.. I speak my mind so please don't get upset with me.. are you ready for that already? Make sure you are.. i hate for you to get hurt or "move on" too quickly.... I want you happy mentally. If you are, then great! Hope you don't mind me questioning it. So glad you are being optomistic about it all though! Enjoy the new you! Hugs and love!

Hey missy...I have been taking my vitamins and iron....but really not eating a whole lot. Melissa I am not hurt at all in the breakup. I have been ready to do this for a long time. I have put up with his **** for so long, that I am free finally to speak my mind, and don't care if he gets angry. I would keep things bottled in as to not upset him. Not any more. I am happy mentally, maybe a little self centered but I have done things for others for so long, right now I have to concentrate on me. I have been making time for the kids too!!

Make sure you get at least some protein drinks down you, your body will rob from its heart and other organs and muscle tissue to get the protein it needs.. do this for me ok? I am glad you are not hurt over it. I just want to see you move at a pace that is right for you.. im glad you are making time for those kids, that is so important. Have a good 4th, I hope you get some time off for that! Hugs!

I am not happy about your decision. I think that it is a temporary euphoria that you are experiencing. I think that you are leaving yourself open for a custody battle. Why?????

Well... You know that I love you... so it's OK if you are pissed at me! I want you to be happy. Married or Divorced... Guard your "position" in the family! You're the MOMMA! The Courts will not be friendly to you if you are portrayed as an "out and about gal", who's dating openly. I went through a 3.5 year divorce, whi*****luded a custody battle and devasted the finances. I did not leave the marriage; he did with his "current" wife. I was made to look horrible in the Court... His lawyer was very good at portraying the "evil woman"! So I love you anyway!!!! and you can't stop me.... Ro

Well I am happy about my decsion, our decision. I was pretty unhappy in my marriage. Just didn't want to admit it....I'm not scared anymore whatever happens happens. We are going to divorce ourselves, we both decided not lawyers they will just take money we don't have. Well my hubby has no legal rights to our daughter, and about 2 weeks ago he flipped out an I called the cops, so he is fighting a domestic violence charged. $3500 for a laywer for that. I'm not worried about my position. I am working 2 jobs to suppliment our income, and I still am meeting my obligations. No I'm not mad, just really happy!!! Take care, Erin

Erin! Good for you! I am so glad that you are so happy. That is what matters in life. I too got divorced. It was final June 16th-also after my plastics!