What to do?

When I went to the PCP yesterday, he wrote me the script for the Lexapro, but he also said that it's not going to be as effective if I don't figure out and talk about what is bothering me. Well, I know allot of it is money,lack of, stress as well as working 2 jobs in 2 very busy law firms. I also know that I have allot of resentment towards my husband. Don't get me wrong I love him to death and have never even considered a divorce, but the fact is I do more than my share in this relationship. Now I know it is not his fault that he physcially cannot do somethings, lawnmowing, weeding those type of things, but that does not keep me from being upset about it. Now the problem is do I keep these to myself or do I risk hurting his feelings and talk about something he cannot fix?

Speaking from personal experience...ie. someone who holds a lot of resentment toward husband, lack of money, stress, etc. I can only recommend that you see a therapist. I don't necessarily think that talking about the things he cannot help with HIM would be beneficial. There's nothing HE can do about them, right? So, it's up to us to fix "us". Know what I mean? I would be willing to bet (again from experience) that the resentments toward your husband wouldn't be so great if YOU weren't over extended as it is. So the fact that you have to also do the physical things makes you angry. Seeing a therapist when you have so much going on seems like impossible, but for your sake (and the sake of your marriage) it really does need to take a priority somewhere. I'd always been too busy, and lacked the finances, but I had to take a stand. It took my second hospitalization to realize that. Sending you hugs, and please...if you feel you need some support other than that, I'm free and available. I hope you're feeling better soon.

THank you for the advice. I have been to couple therapis, but I just did not "click" with them, but I will start looking again. Thanks!

You're welcome. I hear you on the not "clicking" with therapists. I've been through many and will be seeing a new one next week. When I first started seeing them, I thought you get what you get, then I realized it's ok to "shop around". It IS your life after all, right? *I didn't know this back then* Good luck in your search, and again, if you need, I'm here. *hugs*

I'd talk to DH calmly. I'd also get a therapist input on the Lexapro, before I started taking it! (((Hugs))) Ro

Hi Amy, how are you honey... Well my years of resentment and ill feelings came out in a big way as you guys know. I was unfaithful to my hubby and it brought out alot of feelings for us good and bad. My husband is hurt very badly but at least he knows I was honest. I told him I have been angry and frustrated at him for years and it opened up his eyes. We love each other dearly but it still may not work out. I felt like you I was pulling 80% of the wt 2 jobs(60 hrs a week) housecleaning, laundry, kids shuttle, shopping, accountant oh and he wants it 3 x a week(yeah right) Well things have changed now. He is really making an effort. He qui****ching so much damn TV and playing stupid xbox, and is actually getting some stuff done and spending more time with the kids. I think you should talk to him and be honest with him. Hopefully he'll listen.. Good luck to you!! Big Hugs, Erin