Thank YOU!
I am praying for you and your husband and hope it smooths over.. keep me posted. I think of you often. 
hugs Melissa. Hope you're feeling better today. Thanks Shawn!
I am not used to not being the giver.. as you can tell my profession dominates giving.. and well i think most of us as previous obese women lost ourselves through giving and people pleasing so its hard to break that cycle and make it a good balance.. some people see you as being "selfish" when you do.. something i have already been accused of b/c I did just that.. its a fine line.
Thanks for reminding me.. its is so very true. *hugs*
You're so right about being people pleasers. And yes, I do feel guilty and selfish when I take time for me, to watch out for me, and not please others at my expense. And yes, those people accuse you because they're not getting what they're used to. And then I ask...really, who's the selfish one here?? So then I ask...is the line really that fine??
If you constantly give what you have, and take nothing in...eventually, you'll be empty...overdrawn even. Try to keep that in mind when you're in need. *I have to remind myself of that too* Otherwise, I end up not being able to give anything, and then that plays on me as well.
Very true.. it isn't what they are used to with us when we change.. so they get easily offended and say we are selfish.. argh.
I don't want to be overdrawn and I do find myself getting that way at times but i think I am doing much better than I was preop.. preop I bent over backwards for anything that had at least two legs and could breath.. no joke. Now I draw many more lines than that.. so its a work in progress at least i am heading in the right direction with it I guess.
thanks for reminding me how important this is and how people get a skewed view of us b/c it isn't what they are used to from us when we change.
Very true... true dat! ;)
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