What a day

So I havn't lost havn't gained....Still 18 from my goal...disappointing. Second...my best friend in the world is having an affair. She is so stressed and is losing weight like crazy. I called my surgeon today (we both work with him) and told him how she was losing so much weight and why and now I feel awful! I am so worried about her and don't know what else to do. She needs help. Especially if she is giving herself an ulcer over the whole deal. On the other hand, I did get good news today. I am scheduled for May 1st for a hernia repair and tummy tuck! yeah...the only thing is I feel that I can't be excited while my friend is going through this and the guilt of telling the doc what is going on is going to kill me....I hate it!!! Thanks for listening...or reading...as I sit here having a pitty party!

I wish there were something that I could do to help. I understand what you mean, but then, I'm a guy and we have a tendency to give others a pass when it comes to infidelity no matter whether they're the guy or the gal. But here's my thought... You might not want to be very specific about what's going on with her when you talk to your Doc about it... You should be able to discuss your stress without dropping a dime on her, right? Just my opinion. Email me if you just need someone to talk to. I think you have my home email address, right? S

Oh Maghan, I'm so sorry for what your friend is going through. I don't know anybody who has gone through this and can't offer any advice but hope that it will all work out ok in the end. Don't give yourself an ulcer over it, for sure! You've expressed your concerns and from here on out she has to handle it with the doctor and the other parties involved. Please try not to let this suck you down into a depressing problem. If at all possible, find a way to get some distance from her without alienating her. What an awful situation at such a wonderful time of year...ouch!!!! Hugs for you! Molly

Hi, Maghan! Congrats on the May 1st Date!!! Hope all goes smoothly for you!!! You should be dancing in the street... not worrying about anyone else or what they do. Put your involvement with your GF's life on the back burner! Her choice shouldn't interfer with your progress and well-being. I'd limit talking about her business, period. If it stresses you, let her know it. Personally, I couldn't listen to details about cheating, as it usually just fizzles out at best. Think about how many "boring" phone calls about all of the "details" you are going to have to endure throughout her affair.... Yawn... Whatever you feel about affairs, if it's not yours... get on with more productive things and concentrate on your happiness. Being on the sideline of a friend's affair is a no win situation filled with a lot of Drama. Just my $0.02 ... Today is YOUR day!!! Ditch the clouds... and Ro

Hi, Maghan... Hope that you are feeling better and losing again! DH & I both were on the opposite side of our EX's affairs... We both wish that we would have known earlier, as so many other people did know. After talking about your post, we thought... your friend might say that she's going places with you... you'd be her cover... which might blow-up on you. Take care! Don't let anything mess up this precious WL time! Ro