What are they hiding??

Hi all. I heard a story the other day and I'm confused as to why people act the way they do. Maybe you can give me some incite. I was at a party and a friend of a friend commented on my weight loss. She knew I had Gastric ByPass surgery. She was telling me that her sister in law had recently lost 200 pounds and just had plastics done. She insisted that she lost the weight by dieting and exercising. Now, I have absolutely no problem with that. I say God bless you but according to her she was following the same type of diet we followed after our surgery. Now, I'm not saying she had the bypass but if she did then why doesn't she just admit it. There is no shame, in fact I am proud of my accomplishments and couldn't have done it without the surgery. Why do people hide the fact that they had help losing the weight? When asked how I lost my weight I tell them right out I had the surgery and would do it again in a heartbeat. Just wondering. Have a good one. Kathi

I've always wondered that too. When I saw pictures of that lawyer from the View a couple of years ago I wondered if she had had WLS. She insisted otherwise, but after going through the surgery myself and seeing how one looks and how very quickly the weight comes off I just couldn't believe her story. Now, of course, she has admitted to having surgery - but why not just admit it? When I was going through the insurance approval process, a very close friend of mine sat me down and very bluntly told me I was just being sucked into a bunch of propaganda put out by a bunch of quack surgeons. She insisted all I need to do was have some self discipline and motivation. Of course, she is a size 5 and has HUGE food issues - can anyone say transference!!!?? She later apologized and has since become more supportive - but I wonder how others around me truly feel about this. Do they think I just copped out? I guess some people don't want to deal with that kind of negativity and just front with the whole 'exercise/diet' thing. Sometimes I want to just say I've made some changes and leave it at that. But I think of all of my friend on OH and all we have been through to get here - and anything other than an honest reply seems to be traitorous. Good question!! I'm interested in what others post. TTFN, Kerdeeya

Kathi, I've wondered that too! I'm well aware that I wore my addictions for the whole world to see every minute of the day. An alcoholic can hide the problem if they choose but a food-aholic can't. We get fat and it feels like wearing a sign that says, "Yes, I know I'm worthless and have no self-control." So after a lifetime of that type of feeling I'd proudly wear a badge that says I had weight loss surgery. I want others to know that I'm not just some skinny b*tch ...I've suffered with weight problems of my own. I want someone else to feel like there is hope out there, they don't have to just keep being pointed to yet another diet only to fail at it. Seems like intolerance of fatness is going to be the last social stigma to stand. As a society we've made such great progress towards equality and respecting one another but on this issue there just hasn't been any growth. (no pun intended) Molly...proud of BOTH of my wls

Kathi, I've wondered that too! I'm well aware that I wore my addictions for the whole world to see every minute of the day. An alcoholic can hide the problem if they choose but a food-aholic can't. We get fat and it feels like wearing a sign that says, "Yes, I know I'm worthless and have no self-control." So after a lifetime of that type of feeling I'd proudly wear a badge that says I had weight loss surgery. I want others to know that I'm not just some skinny b*tch ...I've suffered with weight problems of my own. I want someone else to feel like there is hope out there, they don't have to just keep being pointed to yet another diet only to fail at it. Seems like intolerance of fatness is going to be the last social stigma to stand. As a society we've made such great progress towards equality and respecting one another but on this issue there just hasn't been any growth. (no pun intended) Molly...proud of BOTH of my wls

I am afraid i cannot give you any incite because i have no clue why people would deny having weightloss surgery - there is no shame - in fact i think that people who have weightloss surgery are brave-there is a lot of risk involved- but we were willing to take that risk to improve our life, health, wellbeing.