Happy Tuesday Weigh-...

Steve, this is one addiction my husband will actually love for me to have. I have no desire for sex and I thought that by loosing the weght it would come back but I has not. Maybe I need to see a therapist but I really do not want to. Bea

Only you can know for sure, but you probably shouldn't assume that you should based on MY drives... Nature has a tendency of taking care of things at her own pace... ya know? S

Steve: You are not alone! I went down that road as well...and then realized that it wasn't me....never was, never would be. So after a flurry of dating people, I decided I needed to keep my eyes out for someone who would support me post operatively and enjoy the benefits of my surgery (ie: added agility) between the two of us. And I did. I am by history a monogamous gal, and let me tell you, that dating pool is a MESS, no matter what age a person is! I wouldn't call it an addiction...but it was impulsive behavior I decided to curtail before it became an issue. I would also say shopping is something I keep a close, close eye on....I moved through sizes so quickly, and I was fortunate to have a lot of clothes in various sizes, but it can get expensive to be buying up clothes, new OR used! I have had to keep a close eye on this as well. I think the more important issue here is just channeling impulsivity or compulsive tendencies, as Melissa indicated in her post. Being aware of them is one step, and making the effort to monitor them and change what needs changed is another. I know that having a therapist who understands this process has been immensely helpful to me. Best all, Megan

I, like Molly, have no great insight here this morning--but wanted you to know that i am on your side and i think that your feelings are natural-1) being a man and 2) with the number of "admirers" that you have - shoot it's gotta feel good. You are still one of the smartest dudes i know --so no change of opinion here!

That's a very nice compliment. In my job, it pays to APPEAR to be intelligent even if you're not...

hey, since you mentioned you do not pursue it with "reckless abandon" and take precasions, i wouldn't view it as an addiction transfer or, even if it is, see no harm in that. hey, life's meant to be enjoyed. whether it's good food, good wine, great sex, traveling (that's one of my addictions), great overprised shoes (o.k. that one being a guy you won't relate to, it's all good. and i think it's perfectly natural that your sexual drive/confidence has improved now that you are in better health and have improved body image due to weight loss. so enjoy!!! (especially if you are good at it cheers, nat

I understand the "overpriced shoes" part - I went through a pretty expensive time replacing all my suits. Your response has made me feel much better about what I considered to be a concern. I'm still concerned but I'm very attentive, so I certainly won't let it get the best o me. And what kind of guy would I be if I didn't claim to be "good at it"... ...although... ...now that you mentioned it... You know what they say about a confidant man...

By the way... HW: 383 SW: 383 LW: 178 CW: 179 1.4 miles on the tredmill.

Hi Steven, thank you for sharing. I know it is sometimes hard to discuss things openly but we are all here. The people on this Dec board amaze me all the time, what a great group of people. I would like to share something too. You know I wish I had the sex drive I did when I was 20, I was pretty obsessive with it, but it's just not there for me like it was, even with the wt. loss. As a matter of fact my drive bottomed out a couple of months ago and my dr put me on testoserone cream and it has helped somewhat. This makes my husband very happy because he is like everyday and I am like once a week. I have been dealing w/ hormonal imbalances for a long time, however my surgery has helped out tremendously with most of the issues. So that's one of my issues and really the biggest one, except always worrying about making my pouch too big Have a nice evening...Erin

It makes me feel good that maybe my sharing allows others to feel like sharing, too. Like in your case. I'm glad to hear that things in that department for you are getting better. I'm sure your husband is happy, too! It's difficult getting things synchronized, and I don't know if they ever actually do. But I guess I'm lucky that I don't have a steady partner that would require synchronicity. Active participation is all that is required... Thank you for sharing in return, Erin. You've helped put my mind at ease. S