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Almost there Melissa 5 more lbs YOU CAN DO IT!

OK... I should have expected that my friend Melissa would be the one to broach the subject... I didn't know whether I'd be happy or disappointed when someone eventually talked about transfer addictions. I knew that it would eventually come up, and I guess I'm glad that it has. I did end up with one transfer addiction. When I first started attending my support group, it came up in a discussion and I actually thought it was a load of crap. And I guess the way that the group addressed it (being the participants were by and large women of the female sex) you would have thought it was all just a big joke.... that it would be hard to tell when a GUY ended up with a transfer addiction like this... So I guess you've all figured out that my transfer addiction is sex. I don't know whether you could call it an addiction, really. Considering that I'm NOT HAVING ANY. Well, actually it's not that I'm not having any... it's just that there's no one that can "confirm" that I'm having it - if you get my drift... As I said, I don't know if you could call it an addiction - just a very healthy "attention to detail". I think it would be classified as an addiction if I were pursuing it with reckless abandon and not taking any precautions. But that's not the case. If I were active, I'd certainly be mature and in-control enough to be able to handle myself properly living in the world that we all live in now. The change in interests is impacted by two different changes... (1) My body has (like everyone else in the group) changed in such a way that I'm much more able to react physically. I'm in the best shape of my life and have told many of my friends that I have more energy now than I did when I was 20. (2) I'm getting a lot more attention from women now than I have for a long time. I know that it's not "a lot of attention". It's actually just "a lot MORE attention" than I'm used to. So I guess it's good that I recognize the reality of that situation. So, now I've been honest and expressed myself to you all. And I'm assuming that some may give me a little bit of the cold shoulder. But I'm hoping that you're all the type of friends that won't react like that - I'm hoping that I'm not viewed differently by anyone in the group. But if you do see me differently, I'm sorry to have "lost you". But I not the type of man who's ever going to be sorry for being honest. S

I think you trust this group, which is a reason you shared this with us. I cannot imagine anyone giving you the cold shoulder for opening up and being honest about yourself. One thing about these questions is that you have to be ready for all the answers. Your transfer addiction is not worse than anyone else's because it is sex. You are still maintaining self control and not out on the town every night going nuts. This is certainly a positive thing. While you may have an addiction, you are still able to control yourself. I would have to say that your feelings and desires are probably quite normal and common especially for men. I also know that a lot of women seem to have a renewed interest in sex after losing weight. (Then there are those of us who want nothing to do with it) Thanks for your honestly Steve..it is always appreciated. Terisa

Let me be the first to say, WHEW!!! Thanks, Terisa... Thanks very much.

I have to ditto and echo everything Terisa said, shes one smart cookie! Steve, I know this wasn't easy for you to admit but none of us will see you in a different way because of it. I am so happy you felt you could come to us and share this with us today.. know that we are transfer to some extent (im sorry but I can't see how one can't..just my personal opinion) for some its very mild to not noticeable and others much more strong. I hope if you feel you need help with this u will get the help you need. I think being a man, like Terisa said, makes you more prone to this and almost "natural" in a way for men to feel this after losing weight but at least you realize its to a level that its a bit of a problem so u can keep ahold of it and not let it get out of control. I am proud of you today.. big pat on the back and we will never judge you and want u to know u can talk openly to us about it anytime ok? ***HUGS***

Thanks, M, I thought I could count on you for wise words and compassion. Don't worry about me not having the control, tho. I have no intentions of doing anything that might cause harm to me or anyone else now that I've got the biggest problem in my life on it's way to being contained (my weight). And this makes me think that there really isn't anything that I can't share here with you all. Thanks again, my friend, S

After only three hours sleep last night and a hard day at work there isn't anything wise or profound I can think of to say. But I will add a 'ditto' to what both Terisa and Melissa already said. It seems we are part of a pretty amazing group of people and I'm so fortunate to be getting to know all of you and hold no judgments on anybody here except myself. Hugs for your brave honesty! Molly

Just thought I would tell you I love the new pics. You look beautiful! BTW..I am comin over to try out some of those syrups!! ~ Terisa

Aw, thank you! It's a date...I make a mean sf, nf soy latte let me tell ya. And the cocoa's and tea's with syrups... Yumm! Molly

I have to admit if there's any transfer going on, it's probably in this department for me too. I think the DH just wishes the hell I didn't have as MUCH energy as I do now *whistles innocently* Totally understandable though, Steve =) And as long as you realize what's going on, and maintain a good attitude and watchful eye, I'm sure it'll all work out. Speaking of watchful eye.. I don't think the DH sleeps with both eyes closed anymore.. muhahahaha HW: 281 SW: 260 LW: 155 CW: 157