Question for the group...

Hi sweetie...well I was doing it for a while.....I love the post, but for me it is time... Work, kids, dogs, chores, excercise keeps me busy so I have little time for the computer. I do enjoy reading them from time to time. But for me it's just really hard to keep up with it.. Love ya though Erin

Hey Erin girlie! I know you are one busy momma, so glad you can check in when you can. You are doing so well with your weight loss and got it "licked" from what I can tell and do well without posting. Post when you can.. you are so close to goal and will be there soon! Love ya back! Thanks for the reply!

Honestly, it's just that I'm too tired/lazy to track on fitday and then post. Though I need to get back to it. I'm seriously afraid at this point. Afraid that I'm not getting enough. Ignoring it though isn't going to do me (or this baby) one bit of good, now is it?? *sigh* Thanks for this kick in the pants (though I know that wasn't your intent) that I needed so badly. I MUST look after myself and especially this little one inside me. So, now off to fitday I go.

Honestly I agree with you, you more than ANY of us needs to make sure you are meeting your nutritional goals. Whatever you can do to meet this I say do it if you have the time. I would be glad to send u that sugar twin if u haven't found it so u can make some of the pumpkin muffins/bars etc that are so scrumptious. I want you to get your nutrition. let me know. Hugs, Melissa

I have not posted as I have not been HAPPY with me I have been having a really hard time the last few months and I feel like I am using my moms illness and death as a excuse to eat. I am sooo trying to get back to what I should be doing but it is so *amn hard. I think I feel like I am failing and part is embarressment on not losing the way everyone else does. I do read ALL the post. I am TRYING to get back to this board and posting as it soo did help me. Melissa I did buy the double Choc. protein shakes but do you drink them out of the carton or mix them with something? Diana

Oh My Dear Diana.. first of all i want to hug you... (((((Diana))))) You have had so much on your plate, it is not a surprise you are feeling this way. I strongly suggest though that you don't take all this on alone. You need a therapist. I need a therapist and I am seeking one. So don't take offense to me when I say this to you. You have additional stress that also affects you right now. Please try to get some help, I do believe it is the ONLY answer right now. As for the shakes.. I put them on ice for about 20 mins get them realy nice and cold (even a bit icy) and drink em straight from the box. Make sure you shake it before you drink it. Good luck and please keep me posted. You can email me ANYTIME, you know this. Heck you can call me too. I would gladly give you my number also. Hang in there sweetie. Huggles!

Melissa, I'm glad you got so many honest answers. It makes me worry for all of us who feel badly about what we are eating though. At our local support group they frequently say that the post-ops they worry most about are the ones they don't hear from. The office staff knows it is because they are having trouble with their diets and are ashamed and then can fall into the bad cycle of regaining. I know none of us here want that to happen! Luckily a lot of us here post to this thread now and again and that is a good thing. Even infrequent accountability is still helpful in this battle. I certainly understand time constraints; life is just so darned busy these days! Thank you for continuing these eats and moves posts. For me, like you...the daily accountability is vital. If I even go part of the day without thinking what I am eating and how it fits into the daily calorie/nutritional budget it starts to suck me down into a mental eating hole that really frightens me. Hugs for everybody here, this is one tough struggle we are all dealing with! Molly

I agree Molly. It is vital for me too. I love what you said "sucks me down into a mental eating whole". ME TOO! I can so relate. I tally in my head all day and log on periodically to fitday just to keep track. Never usually exactly where I want it to be but it is as close as a person can get most days. I need to do it for me if for no one else and I hope others will keep joining us. We ALL want to be successful and we are ALL here to support eachother. Bad decisions or not. do not be ashamed. I have posted some really bad days and yes, I hate doing it but we are human not perfect so its ok and tomorrow is always a new day! Don't be afraid. Please keep coming and posting to the eats post! And if you make a bad decision go for an extra walk or move some more. Exercise is awesome and curbs my hunger and alleviates stress too! A wonderful thing.. and my transfer addiction!

Melissa: I say if it helps y'all to post on what you ate, rock on and go for it! Different strokes for different folks as they say.... I have a specialty therapist, she's been doing bariatric pre and post op tehrapy/testing for 20+ years....part of her philosophy is that obesity is a medical disease, and not a behavioral frailty or "issue"...and as a part of this therapy, I am not supposed to focus on what I ate (aside from staying within my calorie intake daily)....per her report, it's not healthy, and the research supports that it supports a "diet mentality" which results in weight regain over time (she's got oodles of articles on this)... I'm also not supposed to focus on weighing daily, so I weigh only once a week. So anyway, I cheat slightly when I post on your "what do you weigh?" posts, but all in all, I am feeling fabulous, and not focusing on my specific food options is helping me to shift my thoughts on post operative life (diets were a constant for me before surgery). Thus, my *lengthy* explanation of why I won't be posting my eats, but I love the December grads board! Who hoo! Happy hump day everone! Megan

Thanks for your input Megan. I remember you talking about this a while back when we first started posting what we are eating and I am glad this is working for you. I start seeing a WLS therapist on Nov 1st and who knows what she will recommend to me as well. I can't imagine letting go of my charting of my food but I am willing to try anything she recommends to me. Thanks again for the comments! I like hearing what is working for everyone!