MIA yet again

Ok, everyone. I know I have been really bad about posting lately. I do still come to read the posts, but just not responding. Things have still been very difficult with my daughter and I tend to shut down from the world when things get stressful, or I get depressed. After one horrific week my daughter is now living with her father. It was so painful to have to send her away, but in my heart I know this is the only way to save her. It is hard to know that as her mother I could not do anything to help her and that she will never live with me again. I took her to her dads last night and cried the entire way home. She now lives over an hour from me. She will have all new friends and new enviroment. The principal is going to watch for her and make sure that she does not make friends with any bad kids. She called me last night and is planning on playing sports again too, which I am thrilled about. So, on one hand I am terribly sad, but on the other I am hopeful that my daughter can start over and get on the right path. ~ Terisa

Hey, Terisa... Missed U! Sounds like such a hard time for you...please take care. I think that you made a smart decision, but a very hard one. You're a great mom. Ro

Thanks Ro Yes, it was an extremely hard decision and I feel like a failure as a mother, but at this point that does not matter. What matters to me is that she gets on the right track and has a future. I am looking forward to watching how things change over the next few months. I used to LOVE to go to her basketball, softball, and volleyball games and miss that. I will drive an hour easily when she has games so I can watch her play again. I swear I will break down in tears the first time I see her playing sports again. I will be so proud of her. Terisa

Terisa, hugs for you. I've been wondering how it was going and figured it must be tough since you haven't been here. I'm so sorry that it turned out this way for your family. Hope that you will find a sense of peace now and be able to begin healing. You have done nothing but give and give and give to her in order to make her the best person she can be. Now it is up to her. Take good care of yourself and come here whenever you can, we are all here to support you. Molly

Thanks Molly. You have been quite yourself too. Are things going ok for you? ~ Terisa

Things are going ok...dh and I got into it this weekend but that's life. It happens sometimes, ya know. It was a 3-day weekend for me so I was very busy here at home trying to get caught up and just enjoying being in my home and not at work. Tomorrow it is back to the grind again but I feel like I've had a mini vacation and that is lovely. Hope that the next week will be a better one. Are you getting phone calls from Emily? I'm so glad she's not with that woman, either. What a horrible path she was headed down, thank heavens it worked out this way instead. I'm so sorry that it is causing you this much pain but hope that in time it will make things better for you all. Hugs! Molly

Sorry to hear that you two got into it. Yeah, I know it happens, but it is never fun. Mine is a little upset with me right now. He says I have been very irritable lately, which I have been. What he does not understand is how much all of this with Emily has really taken a toll on me, has hurt and affected me in many ways. I do not talk about with him because he just seems to be annoyed if I talk to him about anything, but just because I do not talk about it does not mean that I am not having a hard time with it. So, I really feel irritable and do not want to be bothered. I try not to take it out on him or anyone else, but sometimes he needs to cut me a little slack and give me some room. I do not ask for him to listen or even understand, just give me a little space sometimes. The three day weekends go by too fast. I would love to take some time off right now, but I used up most of my vacation time this year dealing with Emily issues. Not a good way to spend 3 weeks vacation. I hope next year I can have some relaxing time off. Are you and your dh ok now? How is Elizabeth doing? Emily has called me several times already and will call again tomorrow after her first day of school. She is nervous, but excited. Once I see her making progress all the pain of her moving away will be worthwhile. Enjoy the beautiful fall weather!! Terisa

Terisa....I am glad your daughter is with FAMILY instead of the "other" women. I am praying she realizes she has been given a clean slate and can start fresh in a new place. I am sure this has been so hard for you. Hugs Diana

I am glad she is not with that other woman either. She was not even making Emily go to school. This woman does not even work and lives with a friend herself. All any of them ever do is sleep all day and hang out all night. I know Emily thought this life was cool, but towards the end I know she was growing tired of it. She had even called me and asked to come home and go back to school. I know my daughter wants to be a nicnu nurse and she knows she cannot get there by not going to school and sleeping all day. My ex's son and my 3rd child, Bethany were both in the nicnu and after Emily had spent time in there with them she has wanted to be a nurse for them every since. Now she at least has a chance. This other woman was leading my daughter towards to road of welfare and there is no excuse for that. I had my daughter when I was in high school and was married even. I did not live at home. It was one of the hardest years of my life, but I still graduated and went to college. I may have only been able to take a class here and there, but still did it. I now have a successful career and working towards my masters. There is no excuse for Emily not to make something of her life. I am a firm believer that the only limitations in life are ones we place on ourselves and I have wanted to set an example to her by showing that even with struggles you can still be successful. Emily told me I was the most imspiring person to her. That was very nice to hear from her. I hope you are doing well Diana, I know this is a very difficult week for you too and I am keeping you in my prayers. Terisa

Hi Terisa, I thank you for keeping me updated on this situation and you already know that I am here to support your 100 percent and hope this all makes the positive turn around for you, Emily and your whole family. With a hopeful heart for you.. I hug ya tight! ~Melissa