It's my turn to admit the issues I am having..

Yes it is a lot to think about.. I haven't slowed down yet in my loss, losing consistently 10 lbs a month.. many of you lost quicker than me in the beginning and it kinda worried me but I have continued to have steady loss throughout.. so now I am kinda worried. Don't wanna be 120 lbs or nothing weird. I hope it works itself out.

Goodmorning Melissa...I sure missed you! I dont really have anything different to say that what the others have said, but want you to know that i care.......Just know that the situation with Grandma is "her" issue and not yours and it probably has very little to actually do with you ...my mother and my grandmother were both that way to me all my life BECAUSE I was heavy ...my grandma died in January of this year 25 days after my WLS I sort of feel cheated of the positive commentary that i never got...(i know sounds shallow) .....i have only been married for 3 years (just one week short of three years) so i cannot give marital advice but the ladies on this board have never steered me wrong before so i know that their advice is good..... You are a strong lady and i know that although you have come to a bump in this road you will get through it Prayers---Dawn

Thanks Dawn, it means a lot to know you guys are there and just simply "care". I love this board and all of you guys so much. My husband and I have been married almost 4 years ourselves.. but we have a lot to think about kids.. etc. We haven't had any of our own yet.. there are a lot of things to work through. I know we will get through it just as you said. We are working on it little by little. Thanks for the support

Sorry about the late response, but I did not get a chance to log on this weekend. I will send tons of prayers your way and just know you are beautiful and you deserve TONS of credit for what you have done and continue to do. Don't let other peoples insecurities mess with your mind and goals.

Thank you Amy, you are so right.

Melissa Oh sweetie I am so sorry to hear that you are having a tough time. You have been such an inspiration to us all and I just can't believe that people can be so rude about things. My goodness especially family cause if anyone has seen you struggle with weight it would be family and should be happy for you instead of jelous. And you say your husband had the surgery too? Gosh why in the world isn't he pleased with your progress. Lord knows I have struggled since surgery with not loosing as much as I would like but I am in no way jelous of anyone who does great. I blame no-one but myself if I fail at this. I will definately keep you in my thoughts and prayers and please try not to let people get you down. Keep up the fantastic work you are doing cause as we all know we are doing this for health not of what people think or do not think about us Right? Hang in there Mini Me

He is please.. he never got to goal and I think deep down he is upset that he didn't but never has ever expressed that to me ever.. he eats the wrong things and honestly isn't a very compliant RNY patient but by HIS CHOICE.. we eat diferently.. way differently. It is strange but I chose to eat right and he hasn't.. it is the way it is. It is only part of the issues.. we have others like do we have kids.. etc.. just lot to iron out.. we will get it worked out.. I am a lot more positive about it now. We have counseling tomorrow, I am looking forward to the session, so is he. Thanks again for being so sweet Melissa. I appreciate your support!