A vanity question...

Ok, I'll admit that I have developed some vanity issues along with losing weight. It is still weird to get compliments and yet sometimes I really want to look as skinny as people tell me I am even though I don't see it myself. Does that make any sense? So, I'm curious if any of you have noticed whether or not you get more comments on your weight loss on days when you are wearing loose-fitting or actual fitting clothes. I've been shedding loose clothes all along the way of this journey and enjoying buying smaller clothes and then shrinking out of them but it does seem like some days people comment more on my weight loss when I am wearing the baggier clothes than the fitted clothes. And I'm not wearing skin-tight stuff, either...yuck! Now that I've totally embarrassed myself and proven that I have a sincere shallow side what do you think? Molly

Oh pleeeeease... you have no room to be embarrassed hun, you look awesome. I am feeling the same way though. I get compliments all the time now and I kinda feel like they are saying it because they feel they have to. I know I have lost weight but I whole heartedly do not see it. I still wear my size 24 jeans (with a belt) and just broke down to get a size 16 (still with a belt) but it all looks the same to me. I do notice when I wear more form fitting shirts I get looks more often, and it's actually not from the "grubby not with someone elses hands types either". Wow I guess that is a little vain too isn't it. Oh well, I am sure there will be a moment where we go OMG I actually do look great. Hope it comes soon, I wanna feel good inside. But once again you look maaaahvelous hun, shake what you got and love yourself for it. Mass huggs Brina

I feel like I am constantly asking my husband if I look more "normal" now or am I smaller than this friend or that friend. It's like a need to feel validated for what I have accomplished or for the comments I get now. I just do not see the weight loss, but I like being told I look good. I think we all are a little vain.

Hi Molly, Yes I do notice that also.. its like they have to see "bag" in our clothes to notice but I have no fear buying clothes that actually "fit" me as I go down. To me its my reward. But like my scrubs for instance.. I wait a while to buy new ones and it is when they are baggier that I felt I got the most compliments not when I buy the new ones that actually fit.. strange eh? It is weird.

Thank you, everybody! This is just part of what makes OH so great. It is very reassuring to know that we all deal with some of the same issues. We've all worked so hard for our weight loss and we all deserve to feel good about it so why is it we don't see what other people see? That one still boggles my mind. Yesterday at work I got a really sweet compliment from a co-worker who told me that she never really thought of me as being as heavy as I was until I got as skinny as I am now. Then she apologized and asked if that was awful and I said no of course not. To me it just meant that she was seeing ME and not my body. That's how I want people to know me anyway. Molly