Pissed at The View.....

I was flipping channels and stopped on The View. I don't think I will ever watch them again. They had 2 women who lost over 100 lbs "on their own". And Joy Behr had the gall to ask them why they didn't chose the "easy way out". She they mentioned the lapband and gastric bypass. I am so mad. I wish I was better at writing letters cuz I would blast The View for what Joy said. This is not easy. Anyone of us pre op and post op knows this is NOT EASY!!!!!!! Yes I am yelling now. Even my friends who have seen me through only 21 days of post op knows this is the hardest thing I have ever done. Damn!!! Now I am crying. It hurts to hear people say things like that. I am sorry for ranting like this. I am so thankful to have my OH friends and my friends here close to my home. If it wasn't for you guys I don't know how I would have been able to handle all this. Thanx for being there. Corinn 245/218/130

I have never seen The View, I didn't think i was missing anything. Those bunch of B(W)itches anyway! This is so much harder than I ever even imagined it would be... this ticks me off really bad! I wonder if those women on the show will have kept all that weight off when it is said and done??? I know I could have lost this weight on my own, i did it before, but I knew I had to have this surgery to be healthy and keep the weight off. How rude!

Corinn- I'm soo sorry you're so upset. They dont understand and that is just a completely IGNORANT statement!! To be completely honest. I felt that way too...years ago. I felt that there was no reason people couldn't just get up and do something..excercise and just TRY. I of course do not feel that way. I think a lot of it came from my mother. she had the surgery done about 4 years ago. She never ever wanted to try do anything ever..never tried to cut back never tried to go walking and I ended up fighting with her about it and told her she was lazy and wanted an easy way out. 4 years later..she didn't do the things right she's gained most of her weight back and she eats soooo horribly. To me I think what she did was a waste of time. Ohhh and all the hard things we have to go to. I have to say I was completely ignorant about all that. I've been big for the last 12 years or so. I've done so many diets and I've lost a lot but ALWAYS gained it back. I knew I couldn't do it on my own anymore and needed some help. I want to do things right so I don't gain this weight back. I don't want to screw up like my mother did. I'm scared of failing. I'm sorry just wanted to give you alittle of what I USED to think. I truly believe she's ignorant and doesn't have a clue what all is involved. I know people who still believe it's the easy way out. That's why they don't know I've done the surgery. I posted on another persons board how I told a good friend and I unfortantely heard his opinion! That doesn't help! I'm so sorry you got upset. Only the people who have actually went through..know how hard it is. This has been the hardest thing I've ever had to do. I'm sure lots of people going to read this might be upset that I felt the same way a long time ago and I'm sorry for that too. Keep your head up and ignore those kinds of people. You've already lost a lot of weight and focus more on how wonderful you're going to look I'm glad I don'****ch the view. Wow that was long, sorry guys

Grrrrrrr!!! That really upsets me too. This is certainly not easy.

I can't believe how insensitive, how completely ignorant those women are! How dare they judge what they don't know! I'm only two weeks post-op, and this is already the hardest thing I have ever undergone in my life. It's like Finals, relationship issues, self-esteem issues, PMS, and money trouble all rolled into one, it's that hard! After dealing with some people in my life (that really sound a lot like Joy Behr, or worse, by the way!), I've learned that saying it's "the easy way out" is their way of admitting that they'd never be able to do something so drastically amazing for themselves. Chances are, they're scared and/or lazy! They don't have the will-power, the faith, or the support to do what we did! Keep up the amazing work, and know that your life took on a whole new purpose - to show others just how strong you are!!!!!! - Krystal 342/319/190

Don't give it another thought. It wastes too much energy, that you need right now! Just consider the source! They don't have those jobs because they are that bright, they just like to run their mouths! And that is what they do best. We all know that it si not easy and I have found that life has a funny way of giving back to those who need to learn a lesson.....her time will come.

I am one month out and still in tremendous pain from a very complicated, 8 hour long open RnY and can honestly say that this has been the hardest thing I have ever done. I would have rather been in labor for a week than go through this pain and wouldn't wi**** on my worst enemy. So, yes, ignorant people irritate me when they say crap like that...but one little fact keeps me sane. Only 4% of people who lose weight through non-surgical avenues keep it off. 4%!!!! So, to Ms. Joy Behr, chew on those facts 'cuz you are one of the ones who are doomed to regain the weight you lost a year ago!

We should write a letter! I can do it. I wonder if that wasn't a poke at Star Jones though, but either way, this is hard I am two weeks post op, and I honestly thought I was ready for this. I was NOT. I am still on liquids because of the vomiting issue. My pouch is swollen, so broth, sug free jello and water. Yummy! I can't even get in the 45 ounces a day. I haven't been able to watch the view in a while anyways because the talk overing is driving me CRAZY. Hang in there! Cindy

My whole family used to think that exact way. Me included. Then I got sick and the sicker I got the fatter I got. It is a whirlwind circle effect. I have documented programs of dieting and losing and gaining. (that is always fun) Finally last year at 44 years old a single mom with 4 kids I was told the odds of me being in a wheel chair were good in the next 5 years. Well. I did 1200 calories forever. I dieted myself right up to 305 pounds. My point is that we all did the old fashioned way. Sometimes for MO people that just doesn't fly. An ignorance for someone who doesn't have the health issues like us. That would be the same as saying to a diabetic you gave up sugar the old fashioned way or you took the easy way out and took insulin. That was not an informed comment. Blow it off. We have suffered other people staring and making comments our whole life and thought it was our fault. Now we have the best tool ever and can become better people. We are an amazing group. You know this. It doesn't matter what anyone else thinks. My opinion Amy J

hey, i know all about loosing weight on my own and not taking the easy way out in fact i have lost 20, 30, 50 and 60 lbs. on my own numerous times...the problem was i gained them all back and then some and yo yo dieted from 120 to 225 lbs. over the last 12 years years or so, developing several kinds of eating disoders and clinical depression in the process, all the while I was also occupying myself with some minor tasks on the side, like finishing law school at 24 years old, working 60-80 hours a weeks as corporate counsel for 5 years, starting my own family law practice and running it for the last year and a half all the while having my weight and eating habits and depression related to my weight gain spin so out of control I was almost ashamed to leave the house. Oh, did I mention, it ultimately destroyed my relationship with the person I loved...he stuck around for a long time and through a 80 lbs. weight gain over 2 years, a forty pound loss in 3 months , then another 65 pound gain over the next six months rying his best to support me in getting healthy again , but hey, I would not have wanted to be with myself either Anyway, now 4 weeks post-op (lap RNY) or 'the easy way out" as people on the view would call it, I'm feeling like a normal human being for the first time since college. I'm working my ass off tyring to re-learn how to eat, exercising 45 minutes a day while still recoviring from major surgery even on days when I feel like sh*t, also back at work as of 2nd representing clients in court who do not know about my WLS (some are going through complicated custody battles, etc., the last thing they need to know is that their attorney is not feeling well on any particular day) and that when their attorney excuses herself to use the restroom during lunch it is actually b/c they have throw up after taking a few bites of grilled salmon b/c they are only now at a stage where they are very slowly re-introducing some solid food and it doesn't do down well all the time. even with all that, my depression has almost miraculously lifted, i'm being weaned off Zoloft and the world seems a better and brighter place. but, i'm so glad the people on the view enlightened me b/c for the last few weeks i was thinking that spending 12,500 out of pocket on my lap RNY was one of best decisions i ever made. now that i know it was "an easy way out" from the reliable aouthority like the people of the view, I'm simply devastated seriously, i was just going to write a few sentences telling everyone not to waste their time thinking about the ignorance of the hosts of the view but, instead, ended up going on a rant so i guess this did hit a nerve (probably because my size 2 mother still thinks it is all my fault and i took an easy way out)